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I am pretty proud of the fact that my husband picked out my ring without any assistance from me. I told him I would be happy with just a band (no diamond. It is what my parents did. My mom eventually got a diamond for her 25th anniversary). I was very surprised when he proposed with a very pretty diamond.
More than half of my friends pretty much picked out their rings. They either guided their SO towards the ring section when they happened to be at the mall. Or girls will look online and say "Oh, this is pretty" to show their SO. So when people saw my ring and asked if I picked it out, I very proudly tell them my SO did it all on his own .
No offense to the ladies that have picked out their rings. It has become more rare for a man to do it without any input, and I take some presonal pride in that.
Not to mention, many times when a man has paid for the engagement ring himself, the woman will buy the wedding rings - which aren't always cheap either.
I bought the engagement ring, we split the rings down the middle, well sort of - hers was a heck of alot more than mine.
I say if the man has the money to buy a big ring and the woman likes big diamonds, then go for it but the average person? I'm happy with whatever because the idea of a man wanting to marry the woman he loves is what's really important. When my husband started to bring up marriage (that's right, it was HIM, not ME), he asked me what type of ring would I like. I told him any shape other than round and that I do prefer marquise. The rest was up to him. My engagement ring is beautiful. It's only about a carat but it's a flawless diamond. He went with quality over the size of the stone. I see women picking out rings (not to give him multiple choice but the actual ring they want) with their guy and to me, it just kind of ruins the whole surprise. Maybe that's just the romantic in me lol
That's kind of similar to my situation. My husband brought up marriage first and asked me about what type of rings I like. I showed him some whenever we happen to see some but I always told him that I also like solitaires and would be happy with one. I also told him that I didn't want anything over a carat - I have small hands and I thought it would look ridiculous on me! He went with a beautiful solitaire and I couldn't be happier! I'm glad I didn't pick mine out - but then again, I'm not really a jewelry person. Maybe if I had been really into jewelry it would have mattered to me more. I have some friends that picked out their own rings - and the rings are precisely their own taste. They are both gorgeous rings and absolutely perfect for them. I'm kind of a simple person she it comes to clothing and jewelry - so a nice, round solitaire is pretty much perfect for me!
My son & his fiance seem to have the best of all worlds. They are poor graduate students who are getting married this summer. He proposed without a ring (and really couldn't afford one). After they announced their engagement her mother gave them her late mother's diamond cocktail ring. They recently went to a jeweler to have the diamonds made into an engagement ring & matching wedding bands. It worked out great as they both had input into the ring design, she had something with sentimental value (the diamonds) yet the rings will be a modern design that they both love.
I bought the engagement ring, we split the rings down the middle, well sort of - hers was a heck of alot more than mine.
My husband's wedding band was a lot more than mine! And he lost it so we had to buy it twice! It ended up costing almost as much as my engagement ring!
I say if the man has the money to buy a big ring and the woman likes big diamonds, then go for it but the average person? I'm happy with whatever because the idea of a man wanting to marry the woman he loves is what's really important. When my husband started to bring up marriage (that's right, it was HIM, not ME), he asked me what type of ring would I like. I told him any shape other than round and that I do prefer marquise. The rest was up to him. My engagement ring is beautiful. It's only about a carat but it's a flawless diamond. He went with quality over the size of the stone. I see women picking out rings (not to give him multiple choice but the actual ring they want) with their guy and to me, it just kind of ruins the whole surprise. Maybe that's just the romantic in me lol
You've been taken - the best quaity diamond is rated IF - internally flawless. There is no Flawless rating - if you've been told that it was rated that, you've been had.
My husband's wedding band was a lot more than mine! And he lost it so we had to buy it twice! It ended up costing almost as much as my engagement ring!
Insurance. Although given the increase in commodities, I'm sure my ring has appreciated just being on my finger. LOL.
Is the proposal really that much of a surprise most of the time? My ex and I talked about getting married a lot before he actually proposed. It was a given. We would say things like "when we get married" frequently. Why would you propose to someone without being pretty sure that they too were counting on the future together?
Im wondering the same. Among people I know and true for myself also, the intent to marry and even wedding details are discussed between the couple after a certain point in the relationship. I wasnt aware the hollywood portrayed romance where a guy gets on bended knee and pops the question really existed.
Personally, I dont get the whole engagement thing. It seems a bit outdated.
I would guess that most men dont know crap and dont care about the ring and would prefer input from his SO. I imagine most women would want some input. Should she have it. That would be up to the individual couple.
Last edited by elnina; 03-21-2012 at 10:51 AM..
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