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I can't see how anybody could make a profit in NY. Not that kind of profit anyway.
We had probably had an expensive wedding by US standards (not NY), but we saw it as an opportunity to celebrate with our family and friends. We definitely didn't go into it expecting to make a profit. We knew darn well it was going to cost us.
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Isn't this sweet: BLAME.
Yes, all women are horrible. You should stay away from them.
im not staying say away but in this case women are to blame
almost no guy wants or cares about planning a wedding
almost any of us would prefer to just get married at city hall to pissing away tons of money on a 1 day event
if it wasnt for women the wedding industry wouldnt exist
Exactly. This is why I had a 2 year engagement. That was the only way I could afford to save $30K for the wedding of my dreams...i could have gotten married in 2009 but when I started shopping around for churches and catering halls, the prices were so outrageous that I told my then-husband to be and parents we had to move the wedding date a year later...otherwise it would be City Hall (which would be fine but my dad wanted to walk me down the aisle..lol).
Going into debt for a 1 day event is just dumb.
its dumb, but just barely dumber than ackowledging the prices are outrageous and then paying them anyway
And neither do many women. I wouldn't spend more than $1,000 on a wedding (and didn't on my own). Plenty of women couldn't care less about big weddings.
if by plenty you mean in raw numbers you're right, but percentage wise they almost all do
no, I'm not getting married, likely ever ..but I was wondering what are your opinions of going cheap on a wedding that isn't "shotgun". I've been seeing/hearing about people skimping on making their wedding really nice, just so they can be married already so was wondering what others think.
I think having a meaningful wedding in a backyard is the way to go....in no way would I consider exellent food cheerfully prepared by family and friends as cheap.....you are equating spending lavish amounts of money to something being "really nice"...I disagree...
I'm sorry, but I just don't think a wedding should be viewed as a grab for money or a way to fund things you need to buy. I think that's a crass way to look at a wedding.
I didn't have a wedding to make money.
That was what we received for gifts. Typically in NY people give cash gifts. We ONLY invited family and a few close friends (my 4 best friends, his 2). We didn't beef up our guest list to make money and honestly didn't expect to receive such generous gifts.
We spent a good amount on our reception and went out of our way to accomodate everyone with their dietary needs and wants (which was much appreciated by our guests).
The fact that we used the money towards purchasing a home was something we received many compliments on. Our families were happy that their gift didn't go towards some kind of frivilous purchase but rather to help us get a headstart as a newly wed couple. This is how it's done in my family and in NY (metro) in general.
However, it still stands to say that we made a good chunk of change off our wedding. If that's crass in your opinion, so be it. We've been just as generous with our gifts when we've attended the weddings of our family members as well.
Importers...when we booked our reception the venue was undergoing renovations. Because of that (and the fact that it was hard to visualize what it would look like completed) we booked for 1/2 off per person.
I think having a meaningful wedding in a backyard is the way to go....in no way would I consider exellent food cheerfully prepared by family and friends as cheap.....you are equating spending lavish amounts of money to something being "really nice"...I disagree...
Did I mention anything about monetary value? I said nice...
expensive weddings can be just as "cheap" so no, that's not what I mean.
I think having a meaningful wedding in a backyard is the way to go....in no way would I consider exellent food cheerfully prepared by family and friends as cheap.....you are equating spending lavish amounts of money to something being "really nice"...I disagree...
Be careful, though - my SIL got a neighbor to "cater" her wedding reception (no, she wasn't a professional caterer, just offered to fix the food). On the wedding day, this neighbor got a severe migraine, had to go to bed, and my poor SIL was stuck with a bunch of food that wasn't prepared/finished. (It was supposed to be Mexican cuisine). We (family members) did our best to try to put it together, and there was food to serve at the small reception, but it didn't turn out the way it was supposed to.
Oh I've seen that! Hawaiian leis and blow up props and glitter on everything...no thanks!
haha oh my! sounds like a sweet 16 bday!
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Not that kind of profit anyway.
..but I was wondering what are your opinions of going cheap on a wedding that isn't "shotgun". I've been seeing/hearing about people skimping on making their wedding really nice, just so they can be married already so was wondering what others think.
