Is the "dollar dance" a tradition everywhere? (wear, bride, money)

[malamute]

I've seen it often but at lower class weddings, it is tacky. It doesn't seem any better than putting dollar bills into the g-string of a stripper.

[Carrie2979]

I live in CA and I've been to plenty of weddings all through my life that have had the dollar dance. I am in my 30's now and getting married. My fiance is from the NE and when I told him of this, he said absolutly not, we are not doing this. I of course had no idea that it was not a common thing. I now understand after his explantion of why it should never be done.

[Dewdrop93]

I've been to a bunch of weddings in SoCal (where I'm from), NYC (where I live), a couple in Northern Cali, and others scattered all over the country. I've never seen nor heard of the dollar dance.

[aragx6]

Only 1 wedding I've been to has had this. I skulked near the back with the others who thought this was equally tasteless. I couldn't have participated even if I'd wanted to -- I wouldn't really even think to bring cash with me to a wedding. The reception is the thank you to your guests for attending the ceremony -- asking them to pull out their wallets for a dollar dance would make me feel like a hooker.

I understand that they're very popular in some parts of the country and/or in some social circles, but I'm not a big fan of the "well everyone else is doing it" excuse. A friend of mine grew up with them at all of the weddings she attended but she bucked the trend anyway -- somehow I doubt any of her guests were enormously heartbroken.

[elnina]

Originally Posted by Pitt Chick

It is an Eastern European thing... and as such, I have seen many.
Plenty of ethnic weddings here in western PA!

I never heard about such thing, but you are right! Not all Eastern European customs, but I found it in Hungary, Poland must be a folklore thing
Eastern European Wedding Traditions

[elnina]

Originally Posted by aragx6

Only 1 wedding I've been to has had this. I skulked near the back with the others who thought this was equally tasteless. I couldn't have participated even if I'd wanted to -- I wouldn't really even think to bring cash with me to a wedding. The reception is the thank you to your guests for attending the ceremony -- asking them to pull out their wallets for a dollar dance would make me feel like a hooker.

I understand that they're very popular in some parts of the country and/or in some social circles, but I'm not a big fan of the "well everyone else is doing it" excuse. A friend of mine grew up with them at all of the weddings she attended but she bucked the trend anyway -- somehow I doubt any of her guests were enormously heartbroken.

I find the ever-popular wedding registries way more tasteless.

[aragx6]

^I don't see why. People want to buy someone a present and, ostensibly, they'd like to buy the couple something they need, will like, and will match all of their other stuff.

I genuinely see a registry as a useful tool more for the guests than the bride and groom -- I certainly know I prefer running to BB&B a few hours before a shower and picking something in my price range off a registry than trying to determine what would be a good present for them, particularly when it's family who I might not know as well as my closest friends. I usually buy a place setting from the couple's china or everyday dishware -- no one would ever end up with a matching set of anything without a registry.

It's perfectly acceptable to not find out where the couple is registered (this information should, of course, never be included with the invitation) and to go off registry. So it's certainly not as in your face a shakedown as the money dance. And, the key thing: it doesn't ask your guests to pull out their wallets at a hosted event.

[UNC4Me]

Never seen it or heard of it.

Sounds tacky to me. After invited guests have sent you a gift and perhaps traveled to your wedding at their expense, you ask them for a "donation". Ugh.

[cpg35223]

If I'm going to give money to a woman in a wedding dress, I want her twirling down a pole while I do it.

Otherwise, it's pretty vulgar.

[Liberty2011]

The only weddings I've been to that had dollar dances were for relatives who live in Ohio. I found it incredibly tacky and am so tired of all the ways brides and grooms are trying to fundraise for their weddings/honeymoons beyond receiving wedding gifts.

Beyond that, I've never experienced a dollar dance anywhere else.