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Originally Posted by twinsoul
Sounds like someone that didn't get the ring she always dreamed of.
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Really -- you've "always" dreamt of a ring?
I think that large diamonds are in fashion right now.
When I got engaged, a large diamond was a half carat, and wedding sets were hugely popular.
Where I lived there was a craze of using other gem stones. I got a ruby that was a family heirloom and most of my friends got emeralds and sapphires and a few got pearls. No one really liked rubies, but it's the July stone, and we met in July, got engaged in July and got married in July, not the same year.
Had a girl who was hitting on my oblivious fiance in front of me say to me -- this is something he and I share. I raised my left hand, pointed to the ruby (and it was over a carat, so it was HUGE) and replied "That's okay, you get him today, I get him the rest of his life."
After an exchange of words where I explained that the ruby was a family heirloom, and indeed an engagement ring she got all huffy and said she had no idea he was engaged.
He responded with You never asked.
Anyhow -- fast forward 15 years. We've started a janitorial company and we do the work, so I don't wear my rings to clean.... I come home to find our house and been broken into and my jewelry is GONE.
I had my wedding ring remade from my husband's matching band, but the ruby is gone, and my diamond band is gone. Eight years later we drop into the local pawn shop on our wedding anniversary.... and my original wedding ring is there....
I bought it back.
But I don't like it anymore. Styles change and I've changed -- it's not comfortable ; it's very wide, as was the style back then (8-9 mm wide). It doesn't fit as I've lost weight. Hubs can't wear his anymore due to Rheumatoid Arthritis.
So right now I'm wearing a gorgeous ruby and diamond band that we just bought together -- very unusual (I like unique things, too -- and they are hard to find!) and they are bezel set, so I can wear them to work!
But count me in on the size doesn't matter side. I can afford a very large diamond, but I have stubby little fingers and small hands and I don't like the look on me. I have a beautiful oval diamond that weighs in at 71 points, and on my hand every one thinks it's over a carat. The oval makes it look larger and elongates my finger... but it feels almost cocktail ring to me -- overdone.
The other thing-- after losing my most precious wedding band I realized that for me -- they're just rings. It's not like a magical piece of jewelry that gives you power of She Ra, or the glue that holds the two of you together.
Since losing my original wedding ring I've had lots of bands and a few diamonds.... and I know what I like more and what I think looks good on me.