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It's incredibly tacky. If you can't afford to entertain them, then don't invite them. There is no shame in having a smaller, intimate wedding or having a wedding where no alcohol at all is served.
Let's put it in context. If you threw a dinner party, would you charge your guests for the dessert? Because it's essentially the same time.
I agree.
One can also just serve wine and beer, without having a cash bar. Do what you can afford, but to make guests pay is just wrong. I've been at weddings where I had to pay to get kids a soda. Let me say I was just a little miffed.
I know for the most recent wedding I attended my friend and her fiance had it set up with the bartenders that it would be open bar for two hours or a set amount of bar tab, whichever came first, then it was cash bar after that. That seemed to work as it gave people who wanted a drink the chance to have one, but they weren't paying for people to get sloshed.
I know for the most recent wedding I attended my friend and her fiance had it set up with the bartenders that it would be open bar for two hours or a set amount of bar tab, whichever came first, then it was cash bar after that. That seemed to work as it gave people who wanted a drink the chance to have one, but they weren't paying for people to get sloshed.
That I would agree too. I didn't mind paying for someone to have a drink or two...I would mind paying for someone's hangover.
Tacky? Maybe. I am not really a drinker so I don't care. Now my brothers 50th wedding party. It was at a bar. The bar was closed down and rented for family and friends for the party.
There were NO DRINKS AT ALL. If you wanted a drink of any kind, soda, beer, liquor, you had to order it from the bar and pay for it. I was shocked.
Maybe a better option for a wedding would just be to not have liquor at all. Then people wouldn't be calling you tacky for having a cash bar.
Yes, I think a cash bar at a reception is tacky. If it is too expensive to pay the bar tab, invite fewer people.
Or serve what you can afford to serve. I'd think inviting the people important to you is more important than serving alcohol.
There are also all kinds of in-between options. Have champagne/sparkling wine for a toast only. Alcohol is not a necessity at a wedding reception.
Tacky? Maybe. I am not really a drinker so I don't care. Now my brothers 50th wedding party. It was at a bar. The bar was closed down and rented for family and friends for the party.
There were NO DRINKS AT ALL. If you wanted a drink of any kind, soda, beer, liquor, you had to order it from the bar and pay for it. I was shocked.
Maybe a better option for a wedding would just be to not have liquor at all. Then people wouldn't be calling you tacky for having a cash bar.
A cash bar can include charging for nonalcoholic drinks(like soda) also, as I mentioned in my earlier post.
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