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As for the guest - lets say you would give 100$ by yourself, or you bring a plus one and still give 100$. The couple could have said no to your plus one and invited someone else who would have given a gift, lets say 100$. Therefore theyd have 200$ instead of 100$
A wedding reception is not supposed to be a gift grab.
It makes no difference where one lives, the definition of host and guest are unchanged. The host pays for the party, the guests don't. Regardless of whether it's a wedding reception or a dinner party.
A wedding gift is an entirely separate thing from the cost of the reception. They are completely unrelated.
A wedding reception is not supposed to be a gift grab.
It makes no difference where one lives, the definition of host and guest are unchanged. The host pays for the party, the guests don't. Regardless of whether it's a wedding reception or a dinner party.
A wedding gift is an entirely separate thing from the cost of the reception. They are completely unrelated.
But the wedding mentality across the country will be different depending on where people live.
The mentality doesn't change the actual rules of etiquette. Expecting guests to pay for a party you are hosting is tacky.
Of course its tacky. I agree. But what im saying is i have heard hundreds of times that you should cover your plate. People here are having $50,000+ weddings here in NY. Its ridiculous. One of the threads on this forum says the average cost of a wedding is $26k. Which is tacky in and of itself.
Of course its tacky. I agree. But what im saying is i have heard hundreds of times that you should cover your plate. People here are having $50,000+ weddings here in NY. Its ridiculous. One of the threads on this forum says the average cost of a wedding is $26k. Which is tacky in and of itself.
Ahhh - gotcha. I'm not doubting that people say it but it's incorrect. It grinds my gears that people say it like it's some kind of rule of etiquette when in fact it's not. No matter where you live.
Of course its tacky. I agree. But what im saying is i have heard hundreds of times that you should cover your plate. People here are having $50,000+ weddings here in NY. Its ridiculous. One of the threads on this forum says the average cost of a wedding is $26k. Which is tacky in and of itself.
I totally get you. I have no idea where people got this expectation, how they justify it, etc. - I certainly don't agree with it - but I have seen it too. I do think regionalism has something to do with it... I've lived in NYC and LA and the expectations for everything about a wedding, from the ring to gifts, is really so high.
I've never heard of the covering your guest "rule" (maybe because I've always been the guest) but... in the same environment where people might expect you to cover your plate, I guess I'm not surprised that that would also be an expectation.
Even with my family. I had a cousin, my favorite male cousin, he got married. the flight alone was $500. His bride wanted all the family tow wear the wedding colors so I'd have to buy anew dress.
I bought them a brand new kitchen aid mixer, she loves to bake.
she thanked me immensely when she saw me in person a year later (in addition to sending a thank you card, and brownies at Christmas)
I think a new strategy has been made.
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