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I see no reason for me registering if I marry because my grandma's set is fantastic anyway and I'd only use it maybe 2 times a year. Especially considering my mom hosts all the holiday parties and she has a set too. My brother and sister in law registered and got a lot of it but doubt they have used it much at all. Personally I'd rather register for something I will always use like a blender (love mixed drinks).
Lots of people do that. They register for everyday things.
I don't know why more people don't register at Amazon. You could register for just about anything you could imagine.
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Sitting down to a family dinner has become far less common with both parents working, and fast food or prepared heat and eat. There just isn't much need for real china. We got ours when we married and used it for Thanksgiving and Christmas for a few years but then went to a more durable set, and now we just use the Fiestaware. Haven't dug out the china and real silver in about 10 years.
I inherited china, crystal, and silver. I also agree that it should be used, so that is what I use every day.
In regards to registries, they are traditionally there to let the guests know what patterns of china, silver, and crystal you have chosen, as well as what items have already been purchased. The recent trend of a) having registries for every event, and b) having a registry to alert guests to exactly what you want is tacky (IMO).
A wedding is an event where two people join together in a union that is celebrated by others. Gifts are not necessary for this to happen, but have become a tradition because people want to provide the lovely couple something to remember the occasion. The gift (amount, style, selection) should be left totally up to the guest.
Because I already inherited the traditional service ware, and had a house full of other items, when I was married, I did not register at all. When people asked where I was registered, I only responded, "thank you so much for thinking of us, but our house is complete. Please know that your presence is all we wish to have."
Interesting topic. I thought that most couples were not registering these days as they didn't want the "formal stuff" and the prices are out of site, especially sterling. Back when we were married, we got Lenox and Towel as well as Waterford. Now, the department stores don't care that much of that anymore. My daughter will eventually get our things but she also inherited her grandmother's Haviland, Gorham and Fostoria. I am really wondering if she will even use it. We use ours at Thanksgiving and Christmas as well. Use to use it more for company but it is a chore to get out and we don't like running it through the dishwasher so everything has to be washed by hand ( me!!). I still think it is beautiful, though, and makes the dinner special. JMHO
I inherited china, crystal, and silver. I also agree that it should be used, so that is what I use every day.
Good on you. That's what it's for. All the people saying "we only use our china on special occasions" ... what do you eat off the rest of the time? Are you really making a distinction between china (porcelain) and stoneware (earthenware)? BTW, did you know "china" is just a nickname since the first porcelain was imported to Europe from the Far East?
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In regards to registries, they are traditionally there to let the guests know what patterns of china, silver, and crystal you have chosen, as well as what items have already been purchased. The recent trend of a) having registries for every event, and b) having a registry to alert guests to exactly what you want is tacky (IMO).
I'm sorry that I learned that there are scan guns that the bride-to-be can walk around the store with and scan everything she likes right into her registry? Okay, I see why the store might do this but gurrl??
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Because I already inherited the traditional service ware, and had a house full of other items, when I was married, I did not register at all. When people asked where I was registered, I only responded, "thank you so much for thinking of us, but our house is complete. Please know that your presence is all we wish to have."
You are a rare bird. Thanks for sharing and I'm actually not being sarcastic
This thread is making me realize I should/want to use my china more!
You should. I put mine in the dishwasher (mine doesn't have that gold or silver trim) and it is treated like any other dish or bowl. I drink out of the crystal glasses everyday, too.
Helpful hint for those who also have real silverware. Silver that is used all of the time does NOT need polishing. And it, too, can go directly in the dishwasher (except for knives whose handle is assembled with glue).
What's the worse that can happen? You might break something? Yes, that's true, but a broken dish or bowl every once in a while is not really a big deal when you can enjoy your fine things daily.
You should. I put mine in the dishwasher (mine doesn't have that gold or silver trim) and it is treated like any other dish or bowl. I drink out of the crystal glasses everyday, too.
Helpful hint for those who also have real silverware. Silver that is used all of the time does NOT need polishing. And it, too, can go directly in the dishwasher (except for knives whose handle is assembled with glue).
What's the worse that can happen? You might break something? Yes, that's true, but a broken dish or bowl every once in a while is not really a big deal when you can enjoy your fine things daily.
That's why Replacements.com was invented.
I never got fine china -- never wanted it. I just couldn't justify the prices.
I do like having special dishes, though -- really makes those special days stand out. On ebay, I found pine cone patterned cup and plate snack sets (large plate with saucer indentation at the side) and those are for Christmas morning present openings. We eat breakfast pastries and drink coffee. I have funky 50's atomic geometric dessert plates for holidays.
But the cats -- they eat their breakfast off fine china saucers I get from Saint Vincent De Pauls for 50 cents. Some people find it snooty, but in actuality the fine china is much lighter than stoneware and with my arthritis is easier to handle quickly, as hungry kitties are NOT patient.
Not to mention eBay, which is easier and (much) cheaper. I admit to segregating my everyday sterling from the rest. I throw it in the dishwasher too (segregated yet again, from stainless) but it's true that dishwasher detergent etches silver a bit and ultimately dulls it. BUT... it can be buffed anytime you like. The stuff is very durable. I do wish I had knives that could go in the DW though... I end up using stainless knives.
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