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rehearsal is usually dinner with the wedding party and NO other guests and NO gifts involved.
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Originally Posted by spencgr
Actually, proper etiquette states that you should invite all out of town guests to the Rehearsal dinner. The thought is that they would otherwise not have anything to do that night (as they are from out of town.) But, there are no gifts given to the bride and the groom at all that night.
Sometimes, the bride and groom will give gifts to their nridesmaids and groomsmen at this dinner. My husband and I also gave gifts to our parents
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Originally Posted by Pitt Chick
No.
The rehearsal dinner is for those who participated in the rehearsal.
Out of town guests CAN be invited (heck, you CAN invited anyone and everyone), but they do not have to be.
There have been some recent threads on the topic of whether or not out of town guests should be invited to the rehearsal dinner. In some communities and in some families and in some situations that answer is emphatically YES (all out of town guests need to be invited) and in other communities and in other families and in other situations the answer is emphatically NO (no out of town guest should be invited).
Basically, find out what is expected in your community, with both sides of the family and in your situation (very, very few out of town guests vs. almost everyone attending the wedding, plus other factors). This matter can easily cause a lot of hurt feelings and misunderstandings.
Does anyone else find it odd that you need to rehearse for a wedding? Just saying "rehearsal" drives home the point that on some level it's just theater.
Getting married...there are not HAVE TO's or PROPER ETIQUETTE since the wedding part is totally optional.
I agree, do what your community do. Or what you want. Whichever. As long as you think of the guests first and you second it usually works out fine.
We didn't have a rehearsal, because we had it outside in the back yard. I have to say it would have helped, because there wasn't a processional, and the minister was expecting one... and there was a small awkward moment.
But we didn't care -- we were married by the end of the ceremony.
@ bridal showers and a Jack and Jill? I'll call that too much. Especially if you are planning to call the same bunch of people by the time it'e your wedding most will be fed up.
Depends on your budget and comfort level. This is normally a once in a life time event, make sure you have it YOUR way (You and your spouse)
My oldest brother's wedding has over 500 people. My other older bro is getting married soon. He has a lot of people he wants to invite, old military friends, COs, his spotter, his Recon unit, other Marines, his business associates, all his employees and their friends, his clients. We have many friends and relatives overseas as well. It is going to be a darn big wedding.
He is not going to do engagement party, just a big wedding that is about it.
I was a bridesmaid in a huge wedding about twenty years ago that had an engagement party, SIX showers, a rehearsal for 200 people, and a massive wedding with a Wedding Brunch on Sunday..
That said, the bride and grooms families are both very prominent and wealthy (the governor and both US Senators were there) and it certainly did not seem like overkill.
I think it is your station in life as to what is too much and what is okay.
As one of 12 bridesmaids, we were instructed to not give any gifts.
The brides family also paid for the bridesmaid dresses as they were very expensive.
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