White at a wedding??? (party, Chinese, women, person)

[sskkc]

Don't wear white and if it's a traditional wedding, don't wear light blue either (the color is traditionally the color for mothers and grandmothers).

My stepmom wore an off~white dress to my wedding. The photographer (without being asked) avoided taking any photos of her and my in-laws still talk about it (and her) in a negative way. I was only slightly annoyed by it... it was my wedding and I had sooo much more to worry about. Chances are, if no one had pointed it out, I wouldn't have noticed. But I'm a very laid back person when it comes to fashion stuff. Other brides may not be so unconcerned.

[rasta empress]

Don't wear white, you may think it is an old fashioned tradition but most people do not. There are tons of dresses out there especially now that it is summer, why would you pick a white one and risk upsetting the bride?

[MNNative]

You've TOTALLY confirmed my suspicions that while some "modern fashion" people (including those who work in retail!) may disagree, white really is inappropriate at a wedding unless you're the bride.

I figure that if I'm even worrying about the situation, I better just forget about it.

I have another dress that I think will be more appropriate (and having browsed their location online I can see that going with something a little more dressed up will be more appropriate anyhow).

Thanks again...saved me from an uncomfortable evening and more importantly, the possible discomfort of the bride!

[pitt_transplant]

I dont think its a big deal.
I think its more important not to pick a slutty dress.

I would just ask the bride or her mother.

[country pride]

I dont wear white at all, ever, so.....
(except socks).
But then I dont wear really low cut and spaghetti strap blouses or tops either. Mostly because I dont have much to show anyway.

[MB2]

Originally Posted by MNNative

You've TOTALLY confirmed my suspicions that while some "modern fashion" people (including those who work in retail!) may disagree, white really is inappropriate at a wedding unless you're the bride.

I have another dress that I think will be more appropriate ................
Thanks again...saved me from an uncomfortable evening and more importantly, the possible discomfort of the bride!

Well, I am with you on this one
Me, personally, would be comfortable to wear a white/ off white to a wedding....I am more "unconventional" and "modern", so to speak.
However, there are plenty of people NOT sharing my taste or choices, and still uphold and honor traditions.
So, that said, and learning a lesson of my own, I discovered to (if possible) speak to the bride or mother- of-the bride beforehand, just to see, what color choices I do have. (I would love to wear a muted pink or such, but, don't want to end up looking like a brides maid either )
If that all fails, I am playing it "safe" and usually end up wearing my well trusted "little black dress" (as a last resort), which comes in handy to pretty much all occasions and you can never go wrong with.
I am certainly not making an a** out of myself ever again.....LOL

[Granny Sue]

And here I thought I'd be the only old fashioned person here.

I agree with the majority, White should be reserved for the bride. I'm not to keen on the black and white weddings either.

[MB2]

Originally Posted by Kali's Grandma

And here I thought I'd be the only old fashioned person here.

I agree with the majority, White should be reserved for the bride. I'm not to keen on the black and white weddings either.

LOL.....I don't consider myself old fashioned by any means. However, I am with you on that.
There should be ONE day, someone doesn't wear the color "white" or "off white"....to respect and honor a bride and her family on a very special day and occasion, and follow a tradition.
I think, wedding guests can survive and "suck it up" for one day NOT being the center of attention for once, and dress appropriately.
And....people can do whatever they want, if it is THEIR wedding (aka Pam Anderson in a white string bikini)....I am sure, she wouldn't have mind if someone would have worn white....AND/ OR went naked......LOL.
There's just a place and time for EVERYTHING, including on WHAT to wear, and in what color.
I am sure, nobody would show up at a funeral in bright white, unless specifically stated to do so. Right ???

[CAKD]

Cute dress it looks just like my sisters wedding dress she wore for her outdoor beach wedding. Get the picture? Not every bride chooses the elaborate wedding gowns but MOST do choose white so why take the chance and interfere with her day? I just bought a dress for my nephews wedding at Ann Taylor Loft. Not white and adorable too Do yourself a favor and pick out something else.

[dmarie123]

The dress is casual, but there are knee lenght dresses these days for casual brides.

Just ask the bride if she would mind.