Sense of entitlement... and paying for weddings (sorry, long vent)

[orangeapple]

Originally Posted by cpg35223

3) Making up vows. Trust me. Unless you are Robert Frost, the chances that your vows are going to be stupid, hokey, and nausea-inducing are about 99.9%. I've never attended a wedding where, when the vows were written by the couple, you couldn't hear the collected rolling of hundreds of eyeballs in their collective sockets. The existing rite of whatever faith or justice of the peace you choose will do the job nicely.

haha...I also HATE self-written vows....they are always horrible, agreed. They also often consist of inside jokes that leaves most of the guests out. Save the mushy gushy crap for private.

[JustJulia]

Wanneroo, I think you should post a thread sometime with some of your stories. It seems like you've seen enough to fill several Bridezilla-type shows!

And I loved that invitation, WyoNewk.

[cpg35223]

Originally Posted by mrstewart

We went to one like that several years ago. We were sitting in the church and my husband saw the brides sister leave her spot as Maid of Honor and he said "Oh, it's going to get really ugly in a sec"

Sure enough, she started screeching some heinous version of 'Ave Maria"...I can still hear it bursting my ear drums...

Oh....my....God. You know, I can't stand "Ave Maria" in the first place, but to have some amateur shrieking it out is the Sixth Circle of Hell, in my opinion.

Our wedding took place in a Catholic Church because, by God, my Catholic in-laws laid down the law. So I remember listening to some adnoidal teenager snuffling his way through that opus. However, during the planning, I refused to lay the flowers in front of the Virgin Mary statue. "What would we do after that? Sacrifice a goat?" Yeah, it wasn't the nicest thing I could have said, but I had really gotten tired of all the layers of crap as my mother-in-law planned the grand wedding of all time.

[wanneroo]

Originally Posted by JustJulia

Wanneroo, I think you should post a thread sometime with some of your stories. It seems like you've seen enough to fill several Bridezilla-type shows!

I think from 2000-2006 I probably worked 10 or so weddings a year in Aspen and Vail, most of them massive royalty and celebutard weddings. There were some we did that had 800-1000 guests.

I've had so many experiences and stories from the past 8 years I can't really remember most of them until someone prompts my brain about it, like mentioning weddings or something.

[MommyV]

Getting back to the original post, sons and daughters in every country are treated very different financially and otherwise by parents. Boys are expected to fend for themselves and be responsible very quickly and girls are pampered a bit too much for a bit too long. It's the tradition everywhere and in every country.

Now, even with siblings of the same sex, there are discrepancies based on the individuality of the siblings. I was able to contribute towards my wedding because I was already working, so my parents matched my money, but my older sister's wedding was paid in full by my parents because she wasn't working yet. And they spent 5 times more on my younger sister's wedding because she got married later and wanted a much grander wedding, but she also contributed a lot more than I did and they matched it.

It's not about being fair, but more about giving each what they feel is important. Maybe, they gave your husband something that is more valuable than money? It seems to me that your husband is the one that is better off. His sister will never realize the value of money, but he's been given a valuable lesson.