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Y'all are talking like you think spending big bucks on a wedding is something new. It's not! It's traditionally been a time for celebration by people all around the globe, from tribe members in darkest Africa to Wall Street brokers. Some don't like it and some can't afford it, but a wedding, especially a first wedding, SHOULD be a valid event for an all-out celebration. For those who want it big and can afford it big, more power to them!
I can attest to that..My now ex friend had a $30K wedding. I personally didn't see the worthiness of it. I had been to cheaper nicer weddings. Divorced less than a year later..
It seems like the more lavish the reception, the higher the risk of divorce. I guess those princesses can't handle the reality of marriage.
As with anything if you can afford it I don't see anything wrong with it, your buying a memory. I've been to bar and bat mitzvahs that cost 40K and to me a wedding is much more important.
This could have not have come at a worse time. Weddings as a national obsession??? Almost a year ago, I violently turned down a proposal to a woman (my age) from South America. These women want nothing but slaving and things done their way. I then spent much of my summer in fear and was stalked. I had night terrors and finally after I could get myself together, I went to her apartment and threatened to deport her out of the country if she didn't stop. I never plan to get married, especially to a woman from a third world nation. Forget it.
Does anyone see a correlation between whether the groom is a trophy husband or not? My experience is limited, but the 3 most lavish weddings I went to, all had a groom most brides would swoon for. I don't think that any marriage lasted 2 years.
A friend of mine got married to a Vancouver woman about 25+ years ago. I heard a rumor that she was well to do but never thought much of it. She seemed down to earth, as our group was. Her parent's house was on half a block of probably the most expensive real estate in the country. We seemed like hicks.
The wedding was understated but we all had a fun weekend, occasionally to the bemusement of the family. I often wonder if they thought she would out grow him. Anyhow, they're still married and he became very successful, without her parent's help.
I've been to a number of less than extravagant affairs too and most of the marriages lasted. Farm weddings are fun and have lots of people invited, but no money is wasted.
Looking at what a newly married couple faces today, they could use the money for more important things. Perhaps her parents cut the cost when its written off as entertainment in their business. Early in my career, I saw a few of those. Just hope the IRS doesn't catch you!
Don't know that one. But if Mrs. CPG ever was hit by a bus and I could find someone remotely as perfect, a beach wedding would definitely be the way to go.
Ah, the romance of a by-gone era. I'm sorry I missed it.. too young. I would have made a great hippie.
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Originally Posted by Fat Freddy
We lived together when we were in school in the 60's.
One day we were in the Food Stamp office filling out forms and my girlfriend said "Hey if we check the "married" box we can get a lot more food stamps."
We did it and have been married ever since.
All it cost was about ten cents worth of gas in our VW bug to get to the Food Stamp office.
We stopped at a friend's house on the way home and bought an ounce of weed to celebrate.
That cost ten bucks, but it was worth it, being that it was part of the wedding and all.
People put more thought and preparation into throwing a party for one day than they do the actual relationship. The courthouse works fine for me, and afterwards gathering my friends to treat them to my favorite pizza joint. Save that money for a house, or other important things.
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