Mother of the Groom - Wedding faux pas? (rings, invitation, beach)
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It was evident after the fact that my mother only chose orange to create a problem. My wife felt as though the attention would've been taken away from her, the bride, on her special day.
Have fun being caught between those two. They sound very dramatic.
It never occurred to me when I got married that I was allowed to tell my in-laws what to wear. Luckily, I had no interest in doing so anyway! I don't know why people (i.e. women) worry over such inconsequential stuff...
My MIL showed up in an off white floor length dress with lace, seed pearls, the whole bit. It looked like a wedding dress and was quite a bit fancier (and probably cost a lot more) than what I wore. LOL
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Originally Posted by Hoosier
Yes, I did call my mother out on it but my wife was very upset and voiced her frustration about my mom's choice to me. The orange dress was what pushed my wife over the edge as my parents were making the rehearsal dinner out to be a complete nightmare for us. They were extremely controlling and were really interested in showing off to our friends and her family. The majority of my extended family did not fly out west for our wedding as it was too far and expensive. So when the orange dress occurred, it was really the final straw for my wife.
perhaps she didn't have the perception it looked like a wedding dress. Perhaps it was all she could find that she could afford or find in her size. Maybe,just maybe she borrowed it from a friend because she had spent so much on her son's wedding that she couldn't afford to buy a new dress.
Being a MIL, I can attest that we take the brunt of DIL's and thier perception of us. I can also attest to the fact that I don't know one MIL who tried to outshine a bride at any wedding. JMHO
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Originally Posted by Gerania
It sounds rather like my experience.
My MIL showed up in an off white floor length dress with lace, seed pearls, the whole bit. It looked like a wedding dress and was quite a bit fancier (and probably cost a lot more) than what I wore. LOL
I find that absurd. Who is there reporting to the fashion police? AND clashes??? This entire colors,themes bruhaha is just silly to me.
Is everyone happy? healthy? In love? Getting along? Those are important issues.
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Originally Posted by CaseyB
They don't. But they shouldn't wear a dress that clashes with them or the general color scheme, either.
perhaps she didn't have the perception it looked like a wedding dress. Perhaps it was all she could find that she could afford or find in her size. Maybe,just maybe she borrowed it from a friend because she had spent so much on her son's wedding that she couldn't afford to buy a new dress.
Being a MIL, I can attest that we take the brunt of DIL's and thier perception of us. I can also attest to the fact that I don't know one MIL who tried to outshine a bride at any wedding. JMHO
I'm sorry you don't get along with your daughter in law, but maybe this mother in law knew exactly what she was doing, upstaging the bride. And I do know some that did try to outshine the bride.
did I say I don't get along with my DIL? uh......no!
Just said MIL's do take the brunt from DILs in many respects and MILs may as well expect it,accept it and button up.
Not all MILs are like Marie from Everybody Loves Raymond.
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Originally Posted by I LOVE NORTH CAROLINA
I'm sorry you don't get along with your daughter in law, but maybe this mother in law knew exactly what she was doing, upstaging the bride. And I do know some that did try to outshine the bride.
Last edited by Élan vital; 03-06-2009 at 02:33 PM..
I'm sorry you don't get along with your daughter in law, but maybe this mother in law knew exactly what she was doing, upstaging the bride. And I do know some that did try to outshine the bride.
All I know is.... if I'm the beautiful bride and I'm getting outshined by my wrinkly old MIL then I better go get some botox or hit the gym or something!!!
Now, for the record, I think it's crazy to dictate what anyone is wearing.... BUT, the bride could just casually "suggest" to the photographer that he purposely not take pics of the MIL and he could ask her to stand aside because her color is messing up the shot. Or, if the MIL was going to order the dress, the bride could offer to do it for her as a favor and "accidentally" order it in a nicer color. I'm just sayin'... personally, I think it's awful to start a marriage out that way, but there ARE ways to stop this!
All I know is.... if I'm the beautiful bride and I'm getting outshined by my wrinkly old MIL then I better go get some botox or hit the gym or something!!!
Now, for the record, I think it's crazy to dictate what anyone is wearing.... BUT, the bride could just casually "suggest" to the photographer that he purposely not take pics of the MIL and he could ask her to stand aside because her color is messing up the shot. Or, if the MIL was going to order the dress, the bride could offer to do it for her as a favor and "accidentally" order it in a nicer color. I'm just sayin'... personally, I think it's awful to start a marriage out that way, but there ARE ways to stop this!
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