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I met up with a friend that I hadn't seen since childhood, a few months back. And while catching up on what was new in our lives, she mentioned that she was getting married very soon!! After passing along my congradulations, and asked how her wedding plans were going, she said fine... then with a bit of hesitation, she felt she needed to divulge and defend the fact that the wedding gown she picked out was black and red with skulls on it, and seemed to hold her breath and wait for my reaction to justify this horrendous need to go against the grain.
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I think I may of ruffled her feathers a bit by not really paying attention to - or caring - about such an obviously against-the-norm choice. but... who cares! Would I do it? LOL hellz no! But it's her special day, I finished my coffee, laughed, told her to knock herself out and have fun! And we parted ways.
As for my second marriage, yes the whole white = virginity is a symbol, outdated, but still upheld - but leaves much room for indivudualism. I would go for a buttermilk cream embroiderey next time I think, rather than the starchy poofy white taffeta statement that you see on so many of the younger first-timers.
Yes, its pretty much passe to wrinkle your nose at 2nd time brides who wear white. The whole "white as virginity banner" idea is a thing of the past for so many.
My second husband REALLY wanted me to wear a big , bejeweled , WHITE princess dress because it was HIS first marriage. I tried to talk him out of it because I did not want to hear the catty whispers of certain females as I walked down the isle. But he really wanted his bride in white, and he was paying, and I wanted to make him happy. He was.
I did leave the veil off my face, and my two little s wore white as well. We just celebrated our 10 year anniversary, and added two more peeps to the mix.
I have seen weddings in rich purples recently ..
If you look at old photos .. often a good suit ... was the choice .. much more practical.
I personally chose a short dress that will still work for the next big anniversary.
I have seen weddings in rich purples recently ..
If you look at old photos .. often a good suit ... was the choice .. much more practical.
I personally chose a short dress that will still work for the next big anniversary.
I used to work in a museum with a collection of wedding dresses--very few of them were white. There were lots of greys, greens, purples, blues. Back in the day, the average woman couldn't afford to spend good money on an impractical white dress, so she'd buy a nice new dress that would then become her "Sunday best".
For a second wedding, it wouldn't be inappropriate to do the same kind of thing, but if the bride wants a white wedding, that's what she should do.
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I think she can wear anything she wants.
I didn't wear white in my 2nd one. I just wore something pink. I'm not much into white clothing anyway. Can stain too bad, if I accidently spilt something.
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Extenuating circumstances notwithstanding - if I have a second wedding it will be in a courthouse wearing jeans and a t-shirt.
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