26 year old social butterfly is inviting 600 of her closest friends to her wedding! (girls, girlfriend)

[professorsenator]

Originally Posted by DennyCrane

Why can't weddings just be for family and close friends?

The answer to that depends upon your culture, which will likely shape and reflect your view of weddings. In many cultures, a wedding is much more than just witnessing and celebrating a marriage. It's about renewing and cultivating family ties, fostering business and political relationships, repaying favors, and/or displaying power and wealth (or aspirations of power and wealth) and position in a social hierarchy.

[crazy_bd]

200 family?? I couldn't come up with 100 if I spent 2 months researching my family tree.

[Norm24x7]

Originally Posted by DennyCrane

Huge weddings are great if you're a guest. You can go and eat free food and get drunk. But I personally would never want a big wedding. Frankly, I think the people who have big weddings are just doing it for show and missing the whole point of a wedding. When my wife and I are looking at the wedding video years after the wedding, I'd want to be able to say who all the people are there. I'd hate to look at it and say, "who is that guy and what's he doing at our wedding?" I'd also hate to see someone I really didn't care for, but was invited because he's a client of my wife's dad. Why can't weddings just be for family and close friends?

LMAO that could be a wedding crasher hehe ..i miss the days when me and my friend used to walk in where ever we saw the crowd lol .. the movie wedding crasher became a cult among youngsters then .. good thing in India, there arent any guests list except for corporate tycoons, politicians and celebrities .. sneaking into high profile wedding functions were easy since we had friends working with them ..anyways if u spill money like honey, the beeline could be endless ! ..funny thing is to click pictures with the bride and groom lol .. boy i was such a brat

[lakeman0]

everyone shows up to weddings, close fam, extended fam ,friends on both sides, their friends, friends of the extended family, your neighbous, that guy you met that one time etc

[cpg35223]

The big wedding isn't for the daughter. It's for the parents. If you're the parent making out the guest list, there are just unending decisions to make, ones that have broad consequences when you dwell in the upper reaches of society.

For example, if you run a successful business, how do you not invite your clients, the ones you've had a relationship for years? How do you not invite the people from church who invited you to their daughter's wedding? And the lists go on and on.

Sure, it's a head scratcher. But you can easily see where things will go. Hell, I was hoping we'd have a small wedding. Five hundred people later, we didn't.

[cpg35223]

Originally Posted by crazy_bd

200 family?? I couldn't come up with 100 if I spent 2 months researching my family tree.

Shoot. Big Catholic families? After 20 years, they're STILL pulling relatives out that I've never met. This family I married into breed like cotton-picking rabbits.

[TheImportersWife]

Originally Posted by crazy_bd

200 family?? I couldn't come up with 100 if I spent 2 months researching my family tree.

Originally Posted by cpg35223

Shoot. Big Catholic families? After 20 years, they're STILL pulling relatives out that I've never met. This family I married into breed like cotton-picking rabbits.

Yeah, seriously! My husband has 14 biological aunts & uncles and that's not including their spouses! Don't even get me started on the number of cousins.

[TheImportersWife]

Originally Posted by NotARedneck

Likely if her parents can afford nearly $100K for a wedding, they bought her a house too.

The only people who this applies to are the couples who blow their down payment to pay for their own wedding, to keep up with their more wealthy friends. Usuallly its the start of a downward spiral of regular bad decisions, ending in divorce.

100K for a wedding in LV with 600 guests? That's wishful thinking.

[robee70]

Originally Posted by cpg35223

The big wedding isn't for the daughter. It's for the parents. If you're the parent making out the guest list, there are just unending decisions to make, ones that have broad consequences when you dwell in the upper reaches of society.

For example, if you run a successful business, how do you not invite your clients, the ones you've had a relationship for years? How do you not invite the people from church who invited you to their daughter's wedding? And the lists go on and on.

Sure, it's a head scratcher. But you can easily see where things will go. Hell, I was hoping we'd have a small wedding. Five hundred people later, we didn't.

This was exactly the case for us. My parents fully paid & organized a beautiful lavish wedding overseas for us, where both my husband and I lived and where my parents have a large extended family. My grandfather, the oldest living member on my dad's side, was given carte blanche to invite all the family he wanted (I think it made him feel like the godfather or something ), many of which I had only heard of. My father invited important business connections of his and my mother invited "friends" from their social circle from all over the world.

My husband & I decided that it wasn't worth the effort & aggravation to take a stand and we really can't complain (although we did do a little rough math and joked about what we could have done with that kind of money). The wedding was beautiful, the food was terrific, the entertainment was phenomenal and everyone that mattered to us was there.

[le roi]

Originally Posted by zonababe

I always look at the money spent on a lavish wedding, could have made a nice down payment on a house.

one of my friends was married a few years ago. the father of the bride offered them two choices: $50,000 on a downpayment for a house, or $25,000 for an expensive wedding.

she had to have the wedding