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Old 05-10-2010, 09:39 AM
 
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hello :-)
i'm an IT professional, 29, and about to be married...
i wanted to know if it's appropriate to invite a couple of collegues....including the boss (ie. CEO of small company) to the reception/wedding.
i haven't been at the company for long (about a year) but get along well with them (although always professional as far as our relationship).

the wedding is local. about 75 people total. mostly family and friends of family but a pretty diverse group.


please let me know what you think.
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Old 05-10-2010, 09:48 AM
 
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Well, he/she might decline an invitation, but would be more likely to be offended by a snub. If anything, it's an opportunity for you to have a better relationship with your boss, not a worse one.
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Old 05-10-2010, 09:54 AM
 
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75 people is a pretty small wedding. If you want to invite them, then invite them. But I don't think they'll feel snubbed if you don't invite them. Since they know you're getting married, if they ask you anything about the wedding just find a way to work in "yeah, it's going to be a pretty small wedding..."
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Old 05-10-2010, 09:55 AM
 
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hello :-)
i'm an IT professional, 29, and about to be married...
i wanted to know if it's appropriate to invite a couple of collegues....including the boss (ie. CEO of small company) to the reception/wedding.
i haven't been at the company for long (about a year) but get along well with them (although always professional as far as our relationship).

the wedding is local. about 75 people total. mostly family and friends of family but a pretty diverse group.


please let me know what you think.
Yes.

By the way, don't write crappy code since your mind's been taken over by a wedding j/k
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Old 05-10-2010, 09:59 AM
 
Location: SWUS
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I wouldn't invite the boss, unless you have been there for quite a while. I wouldn't want them finding out how long the honeymoon is, you don't want them thinking about what projects to assign to you after your R+R
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Old 05-10-2010, 10:02 AM
 
Location: Tri-State Area
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hello :-)
i'm an IT professional, 29, and about to be married...
i wanted to know if it's appropriate to invite a couple of collegues....including the boss (ie. CEO of small company) to the reception/wedding.
i haven't been at the company for long (about a year) but get along well with them (although always professional as far as our relationship).

the wedding is local. about 75 people total. mostly family and friends of family but a pretty diverse group.


please let me know what you think.
Invite the boss, to do otherwise would be a sign of disrespect. At best the boss will accept, at worst the boss will politely decline.
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Old 05-10-2010, 10:20 AM
 
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Just don't let him 'kiss the bride'.
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Old 05-10-2010, 10:28 AM
 
Location: SWUS
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Invite the boss, to do otherwise would be a sign of disrespect. At best the boss will accept, at worst the boss will politely decline.

I'm curious how it would be disrespectful? If he doesn't want to mix business with pleasure, that's his business..
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Old 05-10-2010, 10:33 AM
 
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I think it depends on your office/boss. I worked in an office for only about 8 months and my boss was very personable and friendly - I would have totally invited her. I had/have other bosses I would not invite or even talk to my wedding about simply because we do not have that kind of relationship at work.
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Old 05-10-2010, 10:40 AM
 
Location: Tri-State Area
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I'm curious how it would be disrespectful? If he doesn't want to mix business with pleasure, that's his business..
It's protocol, not inviting the boss indicates you don't think much of that person. Tell me, you are the boss, your subordinate is getting married and doesn't invite you - what does that say? Hey JordanJP, you may sign my paycheck, you may give me a raise/bonus, but I don't think much of you as a person. See how far you get at work. You can do stellar work and guess what, this comes into play and instead of a 10% raise, you get a 7% raise, while your cubicle mate gets 8%. And this is one of the things they don't teach you at school, but is taught at the school of "hard knocks".
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