Hi Nancy...
Being a transplanted Pittsburgher, or Yinzer, I can understand why you would want to get out of Pittsburgh with your family.
Being that you said you want to say close to work, I assume that you work close to the airport or in Moon area? If thats not the case, have you looked at Washington County at all? Bridgeville, Canonsburg, and Washington are all very nice, close, and affordable.
With that said... I want to college in Wheeling, WV... not far from Weirton. Weirton is a nice little town. About the bars and clubs... for a small area, the night life is pretty frequent. West Virginia has a drinking problem.

The bars dont have to close till 3am in WV, so there is potential for negative events, but its few and far between what you see in Pittsburgh. In Pittsburgh, we have a murder or two a week... in that area, you get a couple a year.
As for schools. Weirton is home to 2 very solid schools. Weirton Madonna is a private school, and a strong academic front. Its small though, only about 150 students, so you're def going to lack a lot of the culture learning that you'd get in the City. But there is not much Culture in that area to begin with. Its very common for kids in that area (and especially older folks) to feel very unconfortable when they are asian, african, middle east people, etc... Its a very white area. If you're a biggot or racist, you'll love the area. While people there are NOT KKK or anything, they def are old American in that almost all people only speak 1 language (english), they are mostly against interacial marriages, etc...
The other school is Weir High... it is a little bigger with roughly 500 students, but still pretty small. They have a rich athletic tradition in football.
Accross the River is Steubenville Ohio, which once used to be a solid economic town. Now it is pretty run down, and not much to it. BUT, it two has 2 solid schools. Steubenville High School has great facilities, and a VERY good football program. The catholic school is Steubenville Central, there too have strong traditions academically and athletically.
Would I live in Weirton? Sure. I would probably send my kids to Steubenville or Steubenville Central though. In that area, it is very common for kids to flip flop schools also.
Taxes are lower in West Virginia, as compared to PA... much lower actually. But with that, the public services are not nearly as good. Things like road conditions, city upkeep, unemployment benefits, police and fire equipment is far behind compared to PA, mostly because of lack of spending dollars generated by Tax dollars.
All and All... I enjoy that area. Its nice to visit and in the Wheeling area I made some of the best friends that I'll ever have in my life.