What would you Do?~Seriously (New York, York: apartment, credit, house)

[Optimistic]

My family and I have lived in GA for the past 7.5 yrs. We came with the hopes of a lower cost of living and a better environment for our children. I grew up in Fairfield County and my husband in Brooklyn. We lived in the Bronx before our move here.

Now due to sheer unhappiness especially on my part we are willing to sell our beautiful home and relocate back up North. I simply cannot adjust to the culture here. Some may think I am crazy to give up my 3000sq ft for a cramped overpriced apartment but I would rather forfeit the perks of living here for the energy and sanity of the Tri-state area.

I wonder if others can relate to my sentiments. GA ranks 48 in the country in regards to education. My children will both be in high school next year and I want them to get the best education possible to be prepared for the curriculum of college.

What would you do? We both have great jobs here. I am do to begin telecommuting by the end of the year. My husband is content with his position here but can also stay with his company if we move. Only I would be changing jobs.

Oh my grandmother who is 82 is also in Westchester and I would love to see her and help her out more as well as she ages. 2x a year is not suffice I miss my family.

All advice is greatly appreciated

[ambarstone]

Hi Optimistic,

My cousin moved to Georgia about five years ago from NJ. She could not adjust either and is coming back (as a matter of fact, this past weekend I think). She is leaving a much nicer house to go back, board with her daughters till they find a place of their own. They are currently a family of four so I don't think this move will be that easy.

I say all of this so you know it is not only you. If you think a move to NY or maybe even CT would make you and you family happy...then do it! Plan it carefully and take the leap. The way I look at it now, it is very expensive in Westchester but well worth the money. And education is just so much better around here. Don't worry about a smaller place...like they say... "home's where the heart is".

Good luck with whatever you decide!

[hastings]

Hi, We're also in Georgia (originally from Westchester county), been here for two years, tried to give it our best shot- but I'm tired of forcing myself to try to like it here. We are also planning on relocating, hopefully back north.

You're already ahead of the game if you and your husband can transfer your jobs. Sounds like you have several reasons, your grandmother, better schools, etc. that would make your move worthwhile. The biggest hurdle I think, will be trying to sell your home in Georgia.

Good luck!

[Optimistic]

You two thanks for responding it is so good to hear of others in similiar situations. I know that to sell our home maybe a challenge however we must give it a shot. We do live in a desirable neighborhood and the housing market here isn't in too much of a bind due to the influx of people coming here. One house in our neighborhood was on the market beginning two weeks ago and it is already under contract. I believe that pricing is key.

[nadia32]

I can totally relate to what you are going through- can't believe you have stuck it for 7 years. We moved down to Charlotte last year, purchased a 5,000 sq foot home and moved back within the year. We absolutely hated it. If you grew in NY/Tri-state area- there is nothing like it. People have a completely different sense of humor. I find there is less emphasis on a good education, world issues and no culture in many parts of America.I am so glad we moved there, because I always thought having that beautiful home on the perfect suburban street would be the best- and now I realize it is not. I am so happy to be back in NY, near my family and friends. I will NEVER leave again. New York is simply the best. I didn't realize all the things I took for granted, all the things that annoyed me- were the things I missed most! I give everyone credit for moving- whether they return or not- it is an experience- that's for sure!

[ambarstone]

Originally Posted by nadia32

I can totally relate to what you are going through- can't believe you have stuck it for 7 years. We moved down to Charlotte last year, purchased a 5,000 sq foot home and moved back within the year. We absolutely hated it. If you grew in NY/Tri-state area- there is nothing like it. People have a completely different sense of humor. I find there is less emphasis on a good education, world issues and no culture in many parts of America.I am so glad we moved there, because I always thought having that beautiful home on the perfect suburban street would be the best- and now I realize it is not. I am so happy to be back in NY, near my family and friends. I will NEVER leave again. New York is simply the best. I didn't realize all the things I took for granted, all the things that annoyed me- were the things I missed most! I give everyone credit for moving- whether they return or not- it is an experience- that's for sure!

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You said it so beautifully...the way I'd like to say it, if I could.
I didn't go far...just to CT but I am dying here. Is not Westchester! Wondering if I should take a major loss and just move and start new.
It would be very difficult to make that kind of money again though.

[Optimistic]

Nadia 32-Wow is all that I can say! Thank you so much for your response. I am so encouraged about the move

[rubygreta]

And Atlanta is running out of water. Why a city and metropolitan area that is so prosperous goes out of its way to lure more corporations from the northeast and midwest when they have so much traffic and so little water is beyond my comprehension.

[Optimistic]

I know that I posted the other day about my desire to leave GA. Well I am so discouraged with the current economy that I feel as if I am stuck in GA. How are we going to get our home to sell in a market that is so weak?

My husband says to remain positive it will sell. We do have a beautiful home,nice lot and a nice neighborhood.

Boy I hope that this will all work out.

[sheenie2000]

I miss NY as well. Born and bred in NY and can't wait to go back. It's been a wonderful experience living in other states such as TX and now NC. NC is beautiful, but BORING! I miss the activities I was involved in there, the life, the variety of recreational activities, etc. I miss going into the city, Bear Mtn, oh and of course PIZZA!!!! Nowhere in the world do they have pizza like they do in New York!!

My husband isnt from NY originally but he'd like to move there as well. Hopefully our business will pick up and we'll go back there. One thing I dont miss is digging my car out of the snow and the slush. Yuck.

I wish you luck in selling your home in GA. If it's priced to sell I"m sure it'll sell. And if it doesnt ur not stuck there forever, worst case scenario u'll have to wait another year when the market picks up.