White and Asian Family

[kolobee]

I have to ask it....Asian restaurants and one tv newscaster = Asian-American Mixed marriage acceptance?

By your logic because a lot of U.S. citizens purchase Egyptian cotton, and Turkish Bath towels does that mean there isn't racism in the U.S against Muslim nations????

Originally Posted by Fitz

I'm amazed at the number of these "will we be discriminated against?" posts.

There's an Asian-American reporter who is a regular on the local evening news in Asheville. He seems happy. Quite a few Asian restaurants too. Do you interracial couples expect special treatment? Otherwise you should consider that all people deal with discrimination of some form or another as well as rudeness from other people.

For me, Asheville's lack of "diversity" is a good thing. I've had enough of the racial melting pot/pressure cooker that you find in most other American cities. Unfortunately there is still a clash going on in the mountains, but it is mostly due to cultural differences and economic disparity between locals and newcomers. Anybody coming here will be in the middle of it to some extent.

[mm34b]

The Asian population of Asheville is less than 1% of the general population as of the last census. Where's the racial or cultural conflict?

Asheville Hate Crime Incidents by Motivation

Race - 2
Religion - 0
Sexual Orientation - 0
Ethnicity - 0
Disability - 0

Table 13 - North Carolina

Federal Bureau of Investigation

[kolobee]

My opinion is based on the lack of diversity as indicated by the data you present IE: 1%, and my gut feelings after observing what I would consider racism and ignorance displayed by others in my area.

Originally Posted by mm34b

The Asian population of Asheville is less than 1% of the general population as of the last census. Where's the racial or cultural conflict?

Asheville Hate Crime Incidents by Motivation

Race - 2
Religion - 0
Sexual Orientation - 0
Ethnicity - 0
Disability - 0

Table 13 - North Carolina

Federal Bureau of Investigation

[SaveMtns]

Ya' know...this got me thinking. (Always a scary proposition - lol!)

If you think about it, we ARE all discriminated against. When I was younger, I found, as my teenagers are now, that clerks were often rude--apparently simply because I was young and they could get away with it. Now, I'll go into a store where someone has just been rude to my kid, and they'll be sickening sweet to me--the old lady!!

Now the young clerks ignore me sometimes--cause I'm older??? Who knows??? They probably ignore everyone...(am I being prejudiced by saying that??!!)

I once had a creative-writing teacher, in college, tell me I could never write successfully because I was "too blonde". (Proved him wrong.)

People have, depending on where I'm living, given me a hard time over where I USED to live...like New Jersey & Florida. In fact, wherever I've lived, someone has always had something derogartory to say about where I had come from!

Some people are bothered by my husband, who is Greek. Kids have given my kids grief over their curly hair.

My husband and I have been criticized for driving foreign cars. Our son has been criticized for driving an American car.

People tell my sister-in-law she's too fat. They've told me I'm too thin--need to get some meat on my bones - lol.

I guess my point is that, as a whole, our society spends way too much time minding each other's business and forming prejudices over any small or large difference that can and will ALWAYS be found in each other, and generally focusing on those inevitable differences.

Seems kind of silly when you realize we all have a million times more things in common than we do differences! What a waste of the limited time we all have here.

[Carolinawit]

I think you will find the Asheville area extremely tolerant in this regard. So many people have migrated here in the last 15 years that people are generally friendly and accepting. Much more accepted here than any other place I can think of in the Southern US.

Carolinawit

[JimBrown1962]

Originally Posted by Fitz

I don't care if you're married to an albino African pygmy or adopted an Eskimo. You made some choices that came with complications. Try walking aound in the world with a child who was born with a disability. You will get lots of stares and occasionally rude remarks too. It's sometimes a cruel world; get to the back of the line if you're waiting for special treatment.

You really don't get it "fits". No one is asking for "special treatment", they are just asking to be treated decently. Yeah, mixed couples do catch a second glance from alot of folks, but there is no reason for rude remarks. White people definitely think they are superior to non-whites. I have seen it and heard it over and over. I have been married 23 years and I have lived it.
So I am wwwwaaaaayyyyyy past the point of waiting for "special treatment"
my friend.

By the way, although I visited Asheville, we ended up getting a house on the beach, outside of Wilmington.

It's very peaceful and the kids love it.

[skyblupink]

Originally Posted by Fitz

I'm amazed at the number of these "will we be discriminated against?" posts.

There's an Asian-American reporter who is a regular on the local evening news in Asheville. He seems happy. Quite a few Asian restaurants too. Do you interracial couples expect special treatment? Otherwise you should consider that all people deal with discrimination of some form or another as well as rudeness from other people.

For me, Asheville's lack of "diversity" is a good thing. I've had enough of the racial melting pot/pressure cooker that you find in most other American cities. Unfortunately there is still a clash going on in the mountains, but it is mostly due to cultural differences and economic disparity between locals and newcomers. Anybody coming here will be in the middle of it to some extent.

I am not surprised. Here on Long Island NY it happens sadly too often, crosses being burned on peoples lawns, fights, etc. I doubt anyone would want their kids to see that on their lawn. I worked in a rough area for awhile and was yelled at and threatened for being a 'whitety'. My friends son had to change schools for being spit upon and beat up for being a different race. In another area I worked in, though I was a minority they were cool with me as my job was helping them, and they even helped me when my car broke down but warned me not to come near there at night. Many times its dumb kids getting caught doing racial things but you do not need to look far to see where are they learning racism from.

[Kentuckyguy]

Originally Posted by SaveMtns

Ya' know...this got me thinking. (Always a scary proposition - lol!)

If you think about it, we ARE all discriminated against. When I was younger, I found, as my teenagers are now, that clerks were often rude--apparently simply because I was young and they could get away with it. Now, I'll go into a store where someone has just been rude to my kid, and they'll be sickening sweet to me--the old lady!!

Now the young clerks ignore me sometimes--cause I'm older??? Who knows??? They probably ignore everyone...(am I being prejudiced by saying that??!!)

I once had a creative-writing teacher, in college, tell me I could never write successfully because I was "too blonde". (Proved him wrong.)

People have, depending on where I'm living, given me a hard time over where I USED to live...like New Jersey & Florida. In fact, wherever I've lived, someone has always had something derogartory to say about where I had come from!

Some people are bothered by my husband, who is Greek. Kids have given my kids grief over their curly hair.

My husband and I have been criticized for driving foreign cars. Our son has been criticized for driving an American car.

People tell my sister-in-law she's too fat. They've told me I'm too thin--need to get some meat on my bones - lol.

I guess my point is that, as a whole, our society spends way too much time minding each other's business and forming prejudices over any small or large difference that can and will ALWAYS be found in each other, and generally focusing on those inevitable differences.

Seems kind of silly when you realize we all have a million times more things in common than we do differences! What a waste of the limited time we all have here.

Well said. I completely agree!

[Kentuckyguy]

Originally Posted by JimBrown1962

You really don't get it "fits". No one is asking for "special treatment", they are just asking to be treated decently. Yeah, mixed couples do catch a second glance from alot of folks, but there is no reason for rude remarks. White people definitely think they are superior to non-whites. I have seen it and heard it over and over. I have been married 23 years and I have lived it.
So I am wwwwaaaaayyyyyy past the point of waiting for "special treatment"
my friend.

By the way, although I visited Asheville, we ended up getting a house on the beach, outside of Wilmington.

It's very peaceful and the kids love it.

I totally understand where you are coming from being married to someone who is from the Philippines! You just wanted to know if you were going to a place where you and your family would be treated with respect and above all treated decently by others. You concern is a real concern and I am glad you asked this very important question. I actually just posed this same question on another focum not knowing it had already been asked. If you are a multi-racial family it is definately a question that should be asked!