For what it's worth, if you're looking for a small town feel, but close to a metro area...the small town right off of I-43 are nice...you have Sheboygan right on Lake Michigan as well as Manitowoc. Denmark is about 15-20 minutes south of Green Bay and it's a small town with an excellent school system from what I understand. It's rural but close to a bigger city. The whole Bears/Packers thing...I wouldn't make that the deciding factor. Yeah, the rivalry is there, but that shouldn't stop them from making friends. We have friends who are Vikings fans and Bears fans...it makes for a fun time during the games.
Green Bay is somewhat more industrial, but you ahve Lambeau, the Resch Center, restaurants, all the TV stations are out of GB ...Appleton is a very nice area that has been named one of the best medium-sized cities to live in by Money magazine...lots of jobs and opportunities. There are several smaller areas to chose from nearby Appleton...just as long as you don't pick Kaukauna, you'll be fine

You could look at Menasha, Neenah...I don't know ...Little Chute etc...This way you are close to both Green Bay and Milwaukee and you are in an area with jobs and restaurants the Performance Arts Center etc...