Why do co-workers ask what are you doing for the weekend? (good, first)

[yellowsnow]

I ask to get ideas. If you found something great to do, maybe I would be interested.

[Whyte Byrd]

Why else? So they know when you're not going to be home so they can rob your house.

[recuerdeme]

Originally Posted by FreshFresh

I never understood or bought into this. If I never hung out with the co-worker why ask me that?

I understand asking if its a holiday, but a normal weekend? whats the point of asking that?

Seriously?

They should stick you in the dungeon room where no one goes and only allow you to come out and nibble on some cheese then scurry back into your hole.



All kiddin aside it's polite its showing camaraderie geez

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by gentlearts

Jeez. What is wrong with asking that? It is a normal subject of conversation in this office. Every Friday we find out what everyone is planning to do, and every Monday am we review.

Because I like to keep my personal life as intended (personal!) and it's none of their business what I do on my own time.

[TabulaRasa]

Because they want to stalk you.



I don't know, people ask me for any number of reasons. Some, because we sometimes socialize in our off time. Some, because they know I frequently attend community events, and want to get ideas of what's going on and if it's worthwhile for them to attend. Some, to make conversation/show an interest/build camaraderie. I've never really found it to be an offputting inquiry. Saying, "Oh, we might go the farmer's market and check out XYZ festival, have you ever been?" doesn't really compromise my personal life or sense of emotional privacy in any way.

I guess I just don't find making casual, friendly conversation to be a big threat to any work/home boundary. I've always found people who are super guarded about basic, routine stuff to be a little odd.

[RockJock1729]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

Because I like to keep my personal life as intended (personal!) and it's none of their business what I do on my own time.

They probably aren't asing because they really want to know. It's like asking someone "How are you?" They don't want details. They're just talking small.

[fleetiebelle]

Originally Posted by RockJock1729

They probably aren't asing because they really want to know. It's like asking someone "How are you?" They don't want details. They're just talking small.

Right, so you say something vague like, "not much, what about you?" and nod politely while they're talking.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by RockJock1729

They probably aren't asing because they really want to know. It's like asking someone "How are you?" They don't want details. They're just talking small.

I know that's the case often (even though some DO want to know) and that annoys me even more. I'm generally not a fan of worthless mouth motions, aka small talk.

[TabulaRasa]

Sometimes people are doing something THEY'RE excited about over the weekend, and want to share, but they ask the other person first, to be polite/give them a lead-in to bring up their thing, and so as not to come off like a person who only wants to talk about him/herself.

Or, they might want to invite you to something, so they're feeling out whether or not you already have plans.

[Suncc49]

Because if they know you are socially connected and doing stuff on the weekends, that you may not come in monday and mow down the office with an uzi....

Seriously though.... small talk, stay connected, and maybe they are looking for something to do. I know if someone is into a certain hobby, I will tell them, X festival or X event is going on this weekend......