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It's been about 4 months that I've been at this job at this store and the assistant manager is so ****in mean to me. She sometimes gets annoyed at simple questions I ask her, gives me these dirty looks, doesn't say hi or bye to me. She looks to be in her mid to late 20s and she's even a mother, but she's like a ****in teenage bully in high school with how she acts with me.
She doesn't go overboard like insulting me, making my work harder, etc. but she's really starting to **** me off. She most probably doesn't like me because I had trouble during the beginning of the job and got lost/confused here and there and took more time to learn what I was doing and people had to help me. She was nice to me when I first started though.
If a supervisor can speak roughly to you, you can speak roughly to them. After all, this is an acceptable form of communication to them. For some reason, when you do it back, things usually get better real quick. Either that or you don't have a mean rotten supervisor anymore because the person won't accept being on the receiving end of what they've been giving out and needless to say...you all may kiss each other goodbye.
Her behavior can only have an effect on you if you allow yourself to react to it. Concentrate on your job, keep a smile on your face, continue to be polite to her and simply ignore it when she looks at you sideways. I should add that I couldn't disagree more with the previous poster who advises a "tit for tat" routine.
Anyway, you may well be reading way too much into it. She's a young mother and probably has much more on her mind than devoting energy to disliking you.
Employee Relations 101: Take her aside and explain in a calm controlled way (with no ****ing starred words) that you find her interaction with you a hindrance and a distraction and you are interested in both of you working together to get the job done. This is addressing the problem at the lowest level. If it doesn't stop, elevate it to her manager.
Being young Mother means nothing. It doesn't mean they have other things on their mind simply because they are a young Mother that is no excuse.
People are the way they are because they get away it and they are testing to see how far they can go. It's a power struggle and she wants that control over you, she wants to domintate in what I consider to be an insecure way to go about it, similar to the way a child in High School would.
Sometimes the excuse is because they think you are something they don't approve of so they want to discriminate against you and can't come out and say why because they know it's discrimination. You'd be shocked at some the reasons I have found out as to why people behave this way. They like to dominate and almost always start with the look then the attitude.
Sometimes when you wait until they make the faces at you and have an attitude at that time if y ou say to them 'are you ok?' 'you look like something is bothering you' or 'you look upset' say it politely and with concern for them and they will see you aren't oblivious to their behavior nor are you as stupid as they assume you to be and not fearful to confront them about it. Because you haven't done anything wrong there's no reason to ask if it's you or if they are upset with you. There's no reason to suspect you did anything unless you know or think you did. Then again she could just feel threatened by you and fear losing her job to you.
It's been about 4 months that I've been at this job at this store and the assistant manager is so ****in mean to me. She sometimes gets annoyed at simple questions I ask her, gives me these dirty looks, doesn't say hi or bye to me. She looks to be in her mid to late 20s and she's even a mother, but she's like a ****in teenage bully in high school with how she acts with me.
She doesn't go overboard like insulting me, making my work harder, etc. but she's really starting to **** me off. She most probably doesn't like me because I had trouble during the beginning of the job and got lost/confused here and there and took more time to learn what I was doing and people had to help me. She was nice to me when I first started though.
You have probably hit the nail on the head with this.
Not trying to be mean but if you come off needing as much reassurance at work at you seem to in your posts, you are probably jangling her last nerve.
I really doubt that it's some sort of power play, or fear for her job, yada, yada. She's probably exasperated and hoping you'll get fed up and move on to something else. I've seen this play out too many times to think it's anything else.
You might go to the manager and see if you can resolve the situation. But then again I've seen plenty of managers who "let" their assistants do the dirty work of running off an employee too.
If you want to keep the job the best bet is to just grin and bear it like secret4777 said. Eventually things will probably work themselves out and she will more than likely just avoid you as much as possible and leave you to do your job.
You don't think you annoy her as much as she annoys you? If she was nice to you before she got to know you and now treats you like crap, that indicates something.
You don't think you annoy her as much as she annoys you? If she was nice to you before she got to know you and now treats you like crap, that indicates something.
Yeah I have to wonder given the many questions the OP asks on here that for most people are basic common sense, that if the OP doesn't drive this woman up the wall.
Sorry, but if what you consider to be simple questions are similar to what you ask on here you're probably driving her crazy.
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