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Even though I lie and say that I get along with others during interviews, the truth is I do not. I am concerned about doing what needs to be done and then I go home. I will not eat lunch with you, I will not hang out with you, I will not talk about reality shows by the water cooler, and I will not put pictures on my wall. I will punch in, eat lunch, and punch out.
The last real long term job that I had I was so anti social. It was like school, except this time I was cool. In school I was a geek that was picked on, but I grew up and became tough. In this situation the people were geeks and I was too cool for them. I enjoyed eating my lunch in the corner and then blitzing out of the lunch room with a clenched fist and a scowl on my face. There were 3 people I talked to in different departments. We would wave to each other and then sometimes stop by at each other's desk. People would just stare and wonder why these three people do not talk to anyone else. Then one day I told my crew that I was quitting. I was warned, but after drinking 5 Pabst I called my boss's vm and said I was done and to clean out my desk. It was so liberating at the time.
Even though I lie and say that I get along with others during interviews, the truth is I do not. I am concerned about doing what needs to be done and then I go home. I will not eat lunch with you, I will not hang out with you, I will not talk about reality shows by the water cooler, and I will not put pictures on my wall. I will punch in, eat lunch, and punch out.
The last real long term job that I had I was so anti social. It was like school, except this time I was cool. In school I was a geek that was picked on, but I grew up and became tough. In this situation the people were geeks and I was too cool for them. I enjoyed eating my lunch in the corner and then blitzing out of the lunch room with a clenched fist and a scowl on my face. There were 3 people I talked to in different departments. We would wave to each other and then sometimes stop by at each other's desk. People would just stare and wonder why these three people do not talk to anyone else. Then one day I told my crew that I was quitting. I was warned, but after drinking 5 Pabst I called my boss's vm and said I was done and to clean out my desk. It was so liberating at the time.
Are you employed now? Do you own firearms? If you are and do, I'm a little concerned for the health and well-being of your colleagues. LOL.
I think now would be a good time to talk to a mental health professional.
The workplace of the 21st Century is about team work. You need the help and cooperation of others on your team. If you are anti social many people will hold that against you and not help you when you need it. On the other hand, social butterflies who are into everyones business will also be frozen out too. Find a middle ground!
Last edited by Workaholic?; 12-22-2011 at 04:50 AM..
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"Getting along with others" does not mean socializing, in fact too much visiting of cubicle neighbors costs the companies a lot in lost work time.
Employers want you to be able to work with people in other departments
and your group, negotiating in a businesslike manner at meetings, accepting suggestions and correction from your supervisor, and answering customer questions politely. Some iinterviewers are not experienced enough to word the questions well and read the body language and know when someone is scamming them.
OP: So how did that bartending gig work out for you? First night on the job you were throwing your weight around kicking people out and you never returned to the thread to give an update. And now I see your latest plan is to rent out part of your living space to "escorts" for their "dates"? Have you considered career counseling at least for a start?
As I said before, we need to find a middle ground between being completely anti social at work and being a busy buddy always getting into everyone's business and wasting their time with small talk.
In my experience the middle ground leans towards socializing. If you treat your coworkers as just professional robots and only talking to them if you need them to discuss work issues most people will see you as out of the loop and cold and aloof. SOME small talk and socialization with your coworkers is part of the bonding process and will get them on your side when you need them. I see lots of aloof people get laid off because it it easier to get rid of people no one knows.
Friendly occasional socialization is part of the job!
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Originally Posted by Hemlock140
"Getting along with others" does not mean socializing, in fact too much visiting of cubicle neighbors costs the companies a lot in lost work time.
Employers want you to be able to work with people in other departments
and your group, negotiating in a businesslike manner at meetings, accepting suggestions and correction from your supervisor, and answering customer questions politely. Some iinterviewers are not experienced enough to word the questions well and read the body language and know when someone is scamming them.
Last edited by Workaholic?; 12-22-2011 at 07:14 AM..
Even though I'm just the opposite of this, my wife is somewhat like this. I socialized at work and sometimes acted down right funny. Never had a problem from co-workers at how I acted, although they did think it sort of weird that a guy in his mid 50's acted this way. However, I did eat lunch in my office everyday. My supervisor wasn't much for socializing with his staff, but did with another supervisor. Since he and his wife owned a boat at one time, he'd ask me during the summer months if we were taking ours out on a weekend.
Now, my wife has learned from me how to be more friendly/socialable at work. Even though she is old enough to be her co-workers mother, she gets along with them. She is extremely focused on her job and sometimes she wants to (doesn't) say to people in the office......"just stay away from my cubicle and we'll be fine". This basically happens when she hasn't got a good night of sleep! If I owned a big company and was looking for someone with her experience, I'd hire her in a split second because of her devotion to her job!
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Originally Posted by loose cannon
Even though I lie and say that I get along with others during interviews, the truth is I do not. I am concerned about doing what needs to be done and then I go home. I will not eat lunch with you, I will not hang out with you, I will not talk about reality shows by the water cooler, and I will not put pictures on my wall. I will punch in, eat lunch, and punch out.
The last real long term job that I had I was so anti social. It was like school, except this time I was cool. In school I was a geek that was picked on, but I grew up and became tough. In this situation the people were geeks and I was too cool for them. I enjoyed eating my lunch in the corner and then blitzing out of the lunch room with a clenched fist and a scowl on my face. There were 3 people I talked to in different departments. We would wave to each other and then sometimes stop by at each other's desk. People would just stare and wonder why these three people do not talk to anyone else. Then one day I told my crew that I was quitting. I was warned, but after drinking 5 Pabst I called my boss's vm and said I was done and to clean out my desk. It was so liberating at the time.
Even though I lie and say that I get along with others during interviews, the truth is I do not. I am concerned about doing what needs to be done and then I go home. I will not eat lunch with you, I will not hang out with you, I will not talk about reality shows by the water cooler, and I will not put pictures on my wall. I will punch in, eat lunch, and punch out.
The last real long term job that I had I was so anti social. It was like school, except this time I was cool. In school I was a geek that was picked on, but I grew up and became tough. In this situation the people were geeks and I was too cool for them. I enjoyed eating my lunch in the corner and then blitzing out of the lunch room with a clenched fist and a scowl on my face. There were 3 people I talked to in different departments. We would wave to each other and then sometimes stop by at each other's desk. People would just stare and wonder why these three people do not talk to anyone else. Then one day I told my crew that I was quitting. I was warned, but after drinking 5 Pabst I called my boss's vm and said I was done and to clean out my desk. It was so liberating at the time.
Every single one of your posts are exactly the same. While you think you are portraying yourself as some kind of independant rebel man and winner of these assorted situations --you are actually just coming across as a class A A-hole and quite proud of it too. Have you considered filing for disability for your condition? Maybe working from home?
OP: So how did that bartending gig work out for you? First night on the job you were throwing your weight around kicking people out and you never returned to the thread to give an update. And now I see your latest plan is to rent out part of your living space to "escorts" for their "dates"? Have you considered career counseling at least for a start?
the bartending gig is fine. I will be there Christmas Eve. I am keeping the bar open til 9. The people love me.
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