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Since there is no "etiquette" forum and this is happening at work, I'll post here. Please feel free to move it elsewhere that may be more appropriate.
How to handle or should I keep ignoring?
The 50 yr old woman who sits in the cubicle next to me at work does not lick her fingers, but sucks them after she eats something without utensils. She doesn't go to the ladies room and wash her hands afterwards either. Extremely disgusting. We have almost non-existent dividers between us so we all see and hear "everything." If there was another cubicle for me to move to, I would ask, but there's nothing.
My husband thinks it's quite okay to say, "Suzie, could you please not suck your fingers in front of me?" I simply don't have the nerve to say that in my place of employment and risk someone else hearing and the whole scenario being turned around where I look like the bad person.
Is there "any" way I can make this person STOP doing this? I can't believe I am actually posting about something like this, but I can't take it anymore.
I understand your situation completely...the first thing I'd do is shoot them dirty looks and make sure they saw me,the next thing would be to keep a radio or something at your desk and crank it up while she's eating...the last thing would be just to arrange your eating time at the same time and leave your desk. Unless of course she eats all day and picks at it which is annoying in itself,to which you could just try #1 & 2;
Why not just talk to your supervisor alone (try to leave HR out of it). Your supervisor is the one who is responsible for the day to day in your dept.
Maybe ask if there is a rule against eating at the desks and if they would please enforce it because someone (don't have to name her) is grossing you out and distracting you from your job.
I think it just sounds too trivial to actually go to hr about...she doesn't seem to be breaking any rules,unless there are rules regarding eating at your desk...
Get a big bottle of hand sanitizer. Every time she is done eating with her fingers, offer ther the hand sanitizer in a friendly, helpful way. If she declines simply say, "Since your fingers were in your mouth, I'm sure you don't want to spread germs to the rest of the office." You only have to say that once. Even if she still refuses, continue to offer her hand sanitizer in a friendly manner whenever she is done eating. If other coworkers are complaining too, suggest they do the same. She'll either stop shoving her fingers in her mouth or she'll start sanitizing her hands afterwards. Eventually. We would hope. You might not get rid of the sucking sound (buy ear plugs!), but you might reduce her germs in the office.
Since there is no "etiquette" forum and this is happening at work, I'll post here. Please feel free to move it elsewhere that may be more appropriate.
How to handle or should I keep ignoring?
The 50 yr old woman who sits in the cubicle next to me at work does not lick her fingers, but sucks them after she eats something without utensils. She doesn't go to the ladies room and wash her hands afterwards either. Extremely disgusting. We have almost non-existent dividers between us so we all see and hear "everything." If there was another cubicle for me to move to, I would ask, but there's nothing.
My husband thinks it's quite okay to say, "Suzie, could you please not suck your fingers in front of me?" I simply don't have the nerve to say that in my place of employment and risk someone else hearing and the whole scenario being turned around where I look like the bad person.
Is there "any" way I can make this person STOP doing this? I can't believe I am actually posting about something like this, but I can't take it anymore.
Is she Indian? I know my folks do this a lot. Sucking the fingers and licking it off, especially the Brahmins
If somebody kept trying to force hand sanitizer on me, I'd tell them to go fly a kite.
Unless licking you fingers is against company policy, mind your own business,
They're just being helpful and friendly. Nothing wrong with that.
It's really no different than offering breath mints to people with stinky breath.
They might refuse them but you keep offering them with a smile on your face.
Seems strange to be upset by people who are being helpful and friendly.
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