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Old 02-26-2012, 10:11 PM
 
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I posted this as a reply somewhere else, but I feel it deserves a thread of its own.

My father's b-wife (my stepmother) decided a few months ago that she needed to become involved with his firm and started complaining about his employees to him and convinced him to fire a couple of them- his secretary and a typist. Both of them had worked for his firm for over five years. Personally, I think she was afraid something was going on with them and my father. When they replaced them, she wanted to make sure that SHE was part of the hiring process and that she would interview the candidates. Now she shows up in his office just about every day, as she has no job of her own, and always finds little things to pick at them about. I live on my own (thankfully) and only visit my father once every week or two, but every time I visit she is complaining about them.

If you are ever interviewed by the boss's wife or otherwise find out that you will be working for the boss AND his wife, RUN!!!!
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Old 02-27-2012, 04:13 AM
 
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I posted this as a reply somewhere else, but I feel it deserves a thread of its own.

My father's b-wife (my stepmother) decided a few months ago that she needed to become involved with his firm and started complaining about his employees to him and convinced him to fire a couple of them- his secretary and a typist. Both of them had worked for his firm for over five years. Personally, I think she was afraid something was going on with them and my father. When they replaced them, she wanted to make sure that SHE was part of the hiring process and that she would interview the candidates. Now she shows up in his office just about every day, as she has no job of her own, and always finds little things to pick at them about. I live on my own (thankfully) and only visit my father once every week or two, but every time I visit she is complaining about them.

If you are ever interviewed by the boss's wife or otherwise find out that you will be working for the boss AND his wife, RUN!!!!
i used to think that family owned businesses would be better to work for than corporations.. not always so.

it's very hard to advance in a family owned business and you're always an 'outsider' and never fully a part of the business.

a corporation has a more fair work environment and has better rules that are in place, also there's a lot more room for advancement and you can actually be a part of the company.

in the situation you describe i'd NEVER last, i hate being watched and micromanaged. it sounds abusive
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Old 02-27-2012, 04:15 AM
 
Location: The City That Never Sleeps
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Been there, done that. Happened a year and a half ago. The situation you describe sounds like camp compared what we all went through at my previous place of employment. The wife there made Linda Blair in Exorcist look like like a girl scout. I had to remove the 9 month job from my resume because she was giving me a bad reference. I resigned on the spot without giving notice 9 months into the job. I refused to be tortured for another 2 weeks, as I know she was that type and would have made my life miserable for the 2 weeks following notice. Husband and wife workplaces, especially if small become hell often. The "Wife" brings the marriage problems into the workplace and ends up taking it out on the other females especially. I say blame the the husband. He has no backbone. Ultimately it's his fault if the company goes down. But no, I would rather clean poop than work for a business owned by a couple.
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Old 02-27-2012, 04:18 AM
 
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I've had both great and terrible experiences with family owned businesses. I think each needs to be looked at individually rather than as a blanket statement.
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Old 02-27-2012, 04:55 AM
 
Location: Seattle, Washington
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Working for Mom and Pops machine shop with 3M in annual sales hasn't been nearly as lucrative as working for the global aerospace company with 20B in annual sales.

I'm better off and there's a lot less nickel and dimeing (sp) now.... LOL
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Old 02-27-2012, 05:13 AM
 
Location: Cumming, Georgia
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I've had both great and terrible experiences with family owned businesses. I think each needs to be looked at individually rather than as a blanket statement.
I agree with this statement here.
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Old 02-27-2012, 06:47 AM
 
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This is an extreme but telling example. Someone applied for unemployment because of being in the crossfire of the husband and wife owners of a restaurant who threw knives at each other frequently.
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Old 02-27-2012, 06:58 AM
 
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This is an extreme but telling example. Someone applied for unemployment because of being in the crossfire of the husband and wife owners of a restaurant who threw knives at each other frequently.
By the same token, I worked for a restaurant that was husband/wife owned, neither ever stepped foot in the kitchen. The ones throwing the knives at each other were the unrelated to anyone cooks. I remember one time the sous chef slamming the microwave door so hard in a fit of anger that it fell off the hinges. Never a dull moment.
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Old 02-27-2012, 08:53 AM
 
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Also, don't forget if there is ever trouble with their marriage, the business and your job can be jeopardized.
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Old 02-27-2012, 09:20 AM
 
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I have a friend who always favors getting sort of odd jobs, like being an assistant for one woman who runs a PR business out of her home, or a family that coordinates the supervision for a brain-damaged relative. She isn't anti-corporate, so much as she has no skills for a corporation and has always looked under "general help" in the local newspaper, and always found some odd thing run be a few people.
If the person/family is well wrapped, fine. If not, the lack of other people around certainly magnifies any other advantages of the job. Also, if the number of employees is under the right number, a lot of rules and regs don't apply.
I'd work such a job if I didn't have another choice at the time, but all of the above caveats apply.
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