Don't take life too seriously... (average, unemployed, work, health insurance)
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The way I figure it, this is life, now. Count your blessings. We all have them.
Maybe we don't have fancy cars, or gourmet meals, or all the things people think they need to be happy.
But if you have life, you are blessed. Many people in wheelchairs would give their life savings to walk.
Right now someone would LOVE to trade their problems for yours.
If you have children and they drive you nuts, remember all the childless couples who yearn for a baby.
If your spouse or family are annoying remember all the lonely or widowed people who wish they had a few minutes with someone who loves them.
What I would love to see on this forum is people being a little kinder. Yeah, there are some clueless clowns who seem like they live in the mind of a 10 year old.
And there are few bullies. Doesn't take long to spot them.
But the rest of us can offer a little help. I've gotten some good advice here.
What I realized before quitting my job is that all the worst case scenarios played out in my head. Then I thought of the worst case scenarios if I stayed. They all pertained to my health. I would have been fired and had poor health and where would have I been at that point? Unable to work after that?
I said eff it and got a $10/hr temp job for about 2 months and still made ends meet. I made sure to focus my life on the truly important things instead of filling my house with stuff or spending money friviously. About 2 months after quitting, I am starting a new job with tuition reimbursement so I can start on my Masters. I would have not found that opportunity if I was so beat down from my previous job.
I woke up this morning and started looking at all of these depressing threads and thought to myself "so what." Nobody makes it out of this life alive. We are all worm food in the end.
If you don't make the money you want, don't have the job you want, so what. Make the most of what you have (whatever that may be) and try to be happy. Life is too short to be pessimistic and miserable all the time.
Go outside and get some fresh air, take long walks, etc.
There is perspective, and there is la-la land. This ^^^ is la-la land.
To test my theory, repeat the contents of the above post to someone who is about to lose a home, who can't feed their children, who has been out of work for a year, or who has cancer and no health insurance. If it sounds preposterously cavalier, it's la-la land.
When you're on a message board as large as City-Data, there will be other members in those situations, so my advice is to remember your audience before posting something so all-inclusively vapid.
I think people that have not had a lot of bad things happen to them tend to not handle things as well as others that may not have lived such a charmed life. Some of us have lost children, homes, vehicles, everything. Some of us have been left with only the clothes on our backs and no place to lay our heads. We tend to be the survivors. We may be temporary laid low but it never lasts. We also tend to not take other folks' good news and perspectives as a slap in the face. We tend to not be bitter, jealous and perpetually angry. We play well with others and see these other folks coming a mile away with their self-pity and whiny attitudes.
I woke up this morning and started looking at all of these depressing threads and thought to myself "so what." Nobody makes it out of this life alive. We are all worm food in the end.
If you don't make the money you want, don't have the job you want, so what. Make the most of what you have (whatever that may be) and try to be happy. Life is too short to be pessimistic and miserable all the time.
Go outside and get some fresh air, take long walks, etc.
Which is why I was shocked when I was criticized for starting a thread and saying the economy is not weak-lol
I think people that have not had a lot of bad things happen to them tend to not handle things as well as others that may not have lived such a charmed life. Some of us have lost children, homes, vehicles, everything. Some of us have been left with only the clothes on our backs and no place to lay our heads. We tend to be the survivors. We may be temporary laid low but it never lasts. We also tend to not take other folks' good news and perspectives as a slap in the face. We tend to not be bitter, jealous and perpetually angry. We play well with others and see these other folks coming a mile away with their self-pity and whiny attitudes.
We also remember where we came from and try to be sensitive to others who might still be there by being encouraging without sounding like an air-headed cheerleader capable of nothing more insightful than platitudes.
There is perspective, and there is la-la land. This ^^^ is la-la land.
To test my theory, repeat the contents of the above post to someone who is about to lose a home, who can't feed their children, who has been out of work for a year, or who has cancer and no health insurance. If it sounds preposterously cavalier, it's la-la land.
When you're on a message board as large as City-Data, there will be other members in those situations, so my advice is to remember your audience before posting something so all-inclusively vapid.
I think the poster means in regards to employment not health. Of course you can't do what he is saying if you have cancer or some other serious health issue.
I think people that have not had a lot of bad things happen to them tend to not handle things as well as others that may not have lived such a charmed life. Some of us have lost children, homes, vehicles, everything. Some of us have been left with only the clothes on our backs and no place to lay our heads. We tend to be the survivors. We may be temporary laid low but it never lasts. We also tend to not take other folks' good news and perspectives as a slap in the face. We tend to not be bitter, jealous and perpetually angry. We play well with others and see these other folks coming a mile away with their self-pity and whiny attitudes.
I've often been called a survivor. Life sucked early on, but I managed ok. Now a lot of the successful people I knew, who perhaps did not have to work quite as hard as others for success, are not having such an easy time. Many can not be called "survivors". The difference is, I have compassion for those going through difficult times. Many people got caught up in their own success, and had no sympathy for those who were struggling. What disturbs me about my own country is how my own people care so little about their own countrymen. The middle class in this country is in a complete decline, because divided, we fall.
But what can I do... The more you think about this kind of stuff, the more you realize, it's best to let the chips fall where they may.
I think the poster means in regards to employment not health. Of course you can't do what he is saying if you have cancer or some other serious health issue.
I think the poster didn't consider his or her audience before posting.
Many people with cancer can still work. Being diagnosed often has nothing to do with how you feel at the moment, as anyone with breast cancer, cervical cancer, or thyroid cancer can tell you. The point is that "not making the money you want" and "not having the job you want" can mean that you have no way or insurance to pay for your medical care--care that you may very well die without.
"But hey, we all die someday!"
I know it's Sunday, but let's not give deep thought a day off.
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