Originally Posted by Randomdude
It could be that his akwardness and shyness is being read by others as arrogance or being aloof.
Im not akward, but I dont talk or interact with others much, nor do I really participate in activities, and I never participate in the office gossip pools, and I have had a number of people over the years not like me for any real reason.
Some people will just make up an opinion or judgement on you without you actually doing anything to them.
This pretty much sums up my issue. People assume that i am an *******, stuck up, conceited, etc since i am quiet, shy and awkward. This is not the case though. i am just a quiet, shy, social awkward dude. FML!!!!
Originally Posted by e_cuyler
In a lot of workplaces the perception of an employee's "fit" is nearly as important as their work performance.
However, they usually at least establish a paper trail of warnings, conversations, etc. before they get around to firing someone. Have they done that here?
They have not approached me in regards to anything like that. The HR is in the UK. It's a small office. 5 people including myself.
Originally Posted by PhxBarb
OP, are you happy at this job? Is it a place you want to be? If not, then I would let it go and not be concerned about what the others think. Ultimately, you need to find the job situation that is right for you. If you want to try to save it, then make some effort to get to know the others in some small way. You have a choice and can change things either way.
The job is ok. Not what i want to do for the rest of my life but i need something to pay the bills. the job market is bleak.
Originally Posted by Billy_J
Have you tried counseling? Basically a person should be able to work at a job without having to socialize with the other employees, but unfortunately that is not the way things work.
Counseling can teach people to turn enemies into friends or "disarm" them.
Another thing which can help is "Cultural Awareness Training". This is intended to teach employers and their staff about certain things foreigners expect or might be offended by at work... But the class I took also discussed cultural norms that Americans expect at work from their co-workers.
Here is one...
Cultural Awareness Training Course - cultural awareness courses
Check your local university or college. Also some psychology classes can help you to learn about other people. Everybody is different. If you can learn what makes certain people "tick", then it is MUCH easier to deal with them!
As for worrying if you are going to be fired or not... Is there anything you can do about this right now? I think not. The above things take time. Anyway I say why worry about something you can't do anything about? Just do what you can, then if nothing more you can do, that is that! Go out and have fun. Forget about it. Nothing more can be done.
I will look into this. Thanks a lot!
Maybe i am being paranoid but i hate this feeling. The only positive thing would be collecting unemployment but then i will have to look for another job. I hope i am just being paranoid.