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Old 06-09-2012, 10:44 AM
 
Location: Hanover, PA
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Times are getting tough in the household.. Been out of work since April 2011. I was the breadwinner since 2003 making excellent money, to where the wife didnt' have to work.

Fast forward to now.. Got an eviction coming up.. If I chose not to pay the rent...(money is available to pay it.. just contemplating on what to do)

Currently on EUC, which will last me till January 5, 2013..

My thoughts running in my head are to get in the car and get somewhere where my EUC will stretch itself better.. move to a place that is much more affordable to live and cost of living lower, than up here in Maryland.
That way worst case scenerio is.. if I have to take a job flipping hamburgers, it will still pay the rent.

Then throw in the fact, that the current apartment complex I'm in now.. doesn't like the dog we have. (even though they first allowed it.. but now they've come up with a breed restriction list all of a sudden)..
The wife doesn't want to get rid of the dog, cause we got it for our son.

Which is another quinky dink in the relocation equation... He's been diagnosed with epilepsy and ADHD so, since he is on medical assistance and currently being prescribed medications for the seizures..
So, if I move, I'm going to lose that security of that..for the short term..

Just alot of stuff on my plate.. The wife hasn't ever lived out of the state of Maryland away from her mother her whole life... so she has that fear (which I do understand)
Myself... I've lived all over and understand what its like to pack up and move, to where you can keep a roof over your head...

Anyone ever been in these shoes before and care to share their experience..
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Old 06-09-2012, 11:31 AM
 
Location: Seattle, Washington
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I moved from Savannah, GA to Seattle, WA in May 2011 with a car full of clothes, a laptop, 32" TV and $4000. I sold off everything else from the house because a 3000 mile Uhaul rental didn't make good sense.

I had a job lined up thru a temp service with a promise of a permanent position in 90-120 days. I wasn't paid relocation. It was risky but I didn't have much of a choice... I needed a job and there were none where I lived. The job went permanent after about 140 days.

I started over out here and everything worked out... I'm 37 and single. It's rough being in a new area but I've adjusted... and met a beautiful Washingtonian lady a few weeks ago as well. The social life is improving. All I did the first year here was work insane hours... now I'm settled and it's time to live a little. Washington is a gorgeous state and I'm very happy here.
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Old 06-09-2012, 12:38 PM
 
Location: Everywhere and Nowhere
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Move down here to Northern VA. We have a lot more jobs.
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Old 06-09-2012, 12:41 PM
 
Location: Metro Detroit, Michigan
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I made the move. I was living in Michigan all my life. Had a good job after graduating HS, but it was in the automotive sector working for a tier one supplier. Wasn't making top dollar there, but doing fine. After the layoff, I started working at other shops, but layoffs were common everywhere. After the last layoff, I had enough. I started searching for work out of state. I had a couple places wanting me to interview within a week. Took a train out to Chicago and interviewed at a couple places, and had a job after 2 weeks. Turned in my 2 week notice at my other jobs, spent a weekend here looking for roommates, cause I wasn't sure if it would last, and what do ya know, it worked out great. Been here for over a year, and even found a different job after a year that was more suited to my liking. Best decision I ever made.

If anything happened here, I would not hesitate for a second sending resumes out of state again. I'm glad I don't have anchors such as a mortgage holding me back. Unfortunately, in this day an age, children are an anchor, and a luxury, which thankfully, I do not have.

If you're looking to move, I would recommend considering your location wisely, and never move without securing employment first. The cities are more expensive, but they also have the most jobs, and the most diverse crossection of employment opportunities. Lots of people competing for lots of jobs, so naturally, not everyone finds steady secure work.


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Just alot of stuff on my plate.. The wife hasn't ever lived out of the state of Maryland away from her mother her whole life... so she has that fear (which I do understand)
Myself... I've lived all over and understand what its like to pack up and move, to where you can keep a roof over your head...
This is something I understand completely. I have never lived in a big city before coming here. I am used to long county roads, quiet suburbs, semi country settings, weekends on the lake, etc. I never cared for big tall buildings or the materialistic lifestyle the city seems to encourage. Coming to the city was something that really was a shock to the system. If you get too used to one type of setting, it does seem uncomfortable. But ya gotta do what ya gotta do. Being in your position, you may have to really spend some time talking things through with the wife. Tell her you understand the position she is in, and how it is understandable to be apprehensive. But also thoroughly explain the position you all are in. Maryland is an expensive place to linger around in. If there are better opportunities elsewhere, you have to really consider them carefully. No decision should be rushed, but it should be carefully considered.

I wish you the best of luck, and hope you are able to find yourself in a better situation. If you have to move for it, that's just the way it has to be.
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Old 06-09-2012, 07:26 PM
 
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I'm glad I don't have anchors such as a mortgage holding me back.
I'm in a good financial position, feel secure with my job (well, as secure as you can be nowadays), but the main thing holding me back from buying a house is if I ever want to leave the city. I've grown up in Houston, but it is ugly, polluted, and covered in illegal aliens.

If I ever decide to move somewhere else for a job, I'll lose 6% of the total price of the home to the commission for the realtor. For a $100k home, that is $6k down the toilet. You don't want to do that too many times.

Also, utilities for my one bedroom apartment are $40-$50 a month. Most of the people I know with houses down here have $200-$300 electricity bills in the summer. That is definitely another factor to consider.

Yard maintenance is also a hassle. I don't want to spend every Saturday cutting my grass or pay Pedro $20 every week to do it.

Then there are various repairs that need to be done, the roof has to be replaced, the house needs to be repainted, etc.

Apartments are maintenance free. The complex takes care of that. Plus, if I want to move somewhere else, I just tell them I'm moving out and don't renew the lease. Simple as that. I love the FLEXIBILITY of renting, plus where I'm at rent is only $700 a month and I live in a safe complex that is only three years old. You can't beat that.
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Old 06-09-2012, 07:42 PM
 
Location: Metro Detroit, Michigan
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I'm in a good financial position, feel secure with my job (well, as secure as you can be nowadays), but the main thing holding me back from buying a house is if I ever want to leave the city. I've grown up in Houston, but it is ugly, polluted, and covered in illegal aliens.

If I ever decide to move somewhere else for a job, I'll lose 6% of the total price of the home to the commission for the realtor. For a $100k home, that is $6k down the toilet. You don't want to do that too many times.

Also, utilities for my one bedroom apartment are $40-$50 a month. Most of the people I know with houses down here have $200-$300 electricity bills in the summer. That is definitely another factor to consider.

Yard maintenance is also a hassle. I don't want to spend every Saturday cutting my grass or pay Pedro $20 every week to do it.

Then there are various repairs that need to be done, the roof has to be replaced, the house needs to be repainted, etc.

Apartments are maintenance free. The complex takes care of that. Plus, if I want to move somewhere else, I just tell them I'm moving out and don't renew the lease. Simple as that. I love the FLEXIBILITY of renting, plus where I'm at rent is only $700 a month and I live in a safe complex that is only three years old. You can't beat that.
Pretty much the way I feel about the subject. I could buy a house, and even went as far as being approved by the bank a couple years ago. After considering it carefully though, I realized at my age, I have no idea where I'm going to be in the next five years. I have no idea what my job situation will be like in 5 years. And utility bills, property taxes, insurance, unexpected maintenance... It all adds up when owning your own home. People around here are paying up to 4K a year for the type of house I would be interested in. No thanks... And you can't beat the convenience of renting. Take the savings and plop in another, more hassle free form of investment and trot along. There are plenty of other investments that track the trends in the RE market.

I pay $650, which is practically a steal here in this area. I'm close to work, so I save a ton on gas. I'm also a quick drive from some of the my favorite parts of the city, yet far enough removed to enjoy a relatively quiet environment. Can't beat that. I really lucked out when I found this place, but it did take 3 months of looking before I finally found something I was happy with. Also took a long while before I was convinced I wanted to stick around in the Chicagoland area.
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Old 06-09-2012, 08:37 PM
 
Location: Barrio Logan/Shelltown
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Then throw in the fact, that the current apartment complex I'm in now.. doesn't like the dog we have. (even though they first allowed it.. but now they've come up with a breed restriction list all of a sudden)..The wife doesn't want to get rid of the dog, cause we got it for our son.

If you got the dog for your son due to his medical problems, it's considered a service dog, and there's nothing the landlord can do about it. Have your son's doctor write a note stating that he needs the dog for his medical problems, and give a copy to the landlord.
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Old 06-09-2012, 10:02 PM
 
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One of my children has a seizure disorder as well - as a mom, you got to do what is best for your kids. If that means moving, so you have a better chance of making it, so be it.
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Old 06-09-2012, 11:25 PM
 
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Times are getting tough in the household.. Been out of work since April 2011. I was the breadwinner since 2003 making excellent money, to where the wife didnt' have to work.

Fast forward to now.. Got an eviction coming up.. If I chose not to pay the rent...(money is available to pay it.. just contemplating on what to do)

Currently on EUC, which will last me till January 5, 2013..Anyone ever been in these shoes before and care to share their experience..
I have been in those shoes and packed up my car and moved. It worked out fine. The difference is I researched the entire country based on specific criteria - MY criteria. Good job market for people over 40, with plenty of companies to flee to if I got rightsized from the current one, basically. Your son's condition and the apartment complex annoyances do not factor into this equation. This is a survival matter, and an income stream for the family is paramount.

Have you thought out where you're going to move to? I would be astonished if you hadn't researched the NOVA area (I'm with CAV on this one).
It may be the only jobs bonanza left in the country. You can make yourself eligible for hire with only a prepaid cell phone and a MAILBOXES address in some DC metro town. Heck, get both in Silver Spring. EZ to commute from there to DC or NOVA. Employers will like that.

MD is a socialist state. Quick! Sign up for every handicapped certification you possibly can, as well as for Section 8 housing. Being that your son qualifies as handicapped, you will go to the top of every list. This is a delaying action. It will be very difficult to evict you with a handicapped child.
GO VISIT THE CARROLL COUNTY SOCIAL SERVICES DEPT TO KEEP THE APARTMENT ANNOYANCES IN CHECK. If need be, spend the rent money on a lawyer.

Packing your car without knowing where you're going, and why, could be thought out better, given that you have the MD safety net. If the illegal aliens MD coddles can milk the system, so can you. So, work the MD safety net while job hunting in the area that has jobs - DC metro.

One of the reasons you are not getting callbacks may be that where you live is uncommutable and NO COMPANIES will relo people these days (just like they won't train these days). Nobody will take it for granted that you will move once you get a job (just like nobody will take it for granted that you can do a ridiculously specific job just because you've done similar ones).

Have you focused in on one or two companies and really researching them to the point where you can identify hiring managers? It's possible to do, and being invited in by an insider is a high probability strategy.

Is your resume a chronological list of jobs? Or is it worded in a way that helps people imagine what you can do? That is, job title - problem - approach - results and impact (err, that would be in dollars and other quantifiable measures of effectiveness). If people can see you as a problem solver, they won't care that you don't have a specific skill.

If it were me, I'd get with the program first thing tomorrow. You can do research at night and on weekends. But you must re-examine your game, because it is not working, and in this area, if you were doing the right things, it would be.

Very best wishes to you and your family.
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Old 06-10-2012, 12:10 PM
 
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Yes, please tell the landlord the dog is for your son. EVEN IF it's technically not a trained service dog (and you just got it because you know it helps him) -- I'd still imply it. (("Oh, service dogs are exempt, I thought you knew?))".....and I'd be thinking calling him a donkey orifice but I wouldn't
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