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Old 08-31-2012, 07:36 AM
 
Location: NYC
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Lay low and don't do anything about your manager. Work your hardest, do your best and let your work speak for itself. Make sure you are 100% professional and polite to everyone in the office. Network with your coworkers to get a good reputation of yourself started.

The last thing you want to do is put yourself on her bad side. Sadly I think it is almost impossible to talk to anyone about the performance of your manager.
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Old 08-31-2012, 07:39 AM
 
Location: St Thomas, US Virgin Islands
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Lay low and don't do anything about your manager... The last thing you want to do is put yourself on her bad side.
This isn't a current situation or a current manager but something which happened quite some time ago ...
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Old 08-31-2012, 07:46 AM
 
Location: Tucson, AZ
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What I really want is an apology from the manager and adminission from the company that their manager was out of place.
You're not getting one. You have a better job now, so move on. This manager isn't your problem anymore.
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Old 08-31-2012, 08:13 AM
 
Location: NYC
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This isn't a current situation or a current manager but something which happened quite some time ago ...
Ah.....thanks. Missed that part! Don't know why OP you would even want to go back in the past and call out the manager. Yes it is annoying. Let it go, move on. You'll only hurt yourself.
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Old 08-31-2012, 10:22 AM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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Sorry to say, but your iinsistence on pursuing this makes me wonder if it was the manager who was on to you.
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Old 08-31-2012, 12:16 PM
 
Location: Petticoat Junction
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Sorry to say, but your iinsistence on pursuing this makes me wonder if it was the manager who was on to you.

Agreed. I detect a "I have this friend who....." vibe here.
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Old 08-31-2012, 12:19 PM
 
Location: NJ
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Any sort of retaliation on your part will be met with derision at best and, let's say just for the sake of argument that something you say resulted in her being dismissed. What on earth sort of satisfaction would you derive from that - a gleeful rubbing together of hands and an "I showed HER" delight? You have to know how totally unproductive and childish that is. Get on with your current job and focus on what's ahead. Good luck.
That may explain the fear of being fired-again. I wonder if the OP is her own worst enemy regarding employment.

To want revenge when one came out in better shape than ever is not healthy.
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Old 08-31-2012, 12:32 PM
 
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What I really want is an apology from the manager and adminission from the company that their manager was out of place.
This will never happen, even if it is deserved.
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Old 08-31-2012, 12:39 PM
 
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I know exactly how you feel. The way you described your temp experience is exactly how I feel in my temp job except I would hope my manager wouldn't let me go in front everyone and humiliate me.

I can understand your anger. If you think it will make you feel better to tell the agency how you were treated, then, do that. Just make sure you are calm when you talk to the agency. Being calm will help your credibility. Also, once you get it off your chest, hopefully, you will feel better because you will have stood up for yourself.
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Old 09-01-2012, 03:14 PM
 
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It is clear to me that she had some sort of grudge against me. I was on to her and she knew it. The people that left her department knew it too. They would talk about how she was bi-polar.

What I am starting to realize is that this is her problem and not mine. I was upfront with her about my goals. She actually knew I was looking for a full time job. I see now that she was just jealous of me, for some unknown reason. Maybe because I was getting out. Maybe because she losing control over me, even though she never had control in the first place.

I do have a great job now. The pay is better, I have benefits, vacation. If she didn't fire me I never would have been available for this job. In a strange way she did me a favor because instead of feeling like a loser like she wanted me to feel, I was even more ambitious about finding a good job. And I did. I found a great one.

So, as for the way she did it, it was wrong and I know that. I just won't get in that position again with another job. That's the lesson I guess I'm supposed to learn for this.

Thank you for all your answers. I appreciate it.
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