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I am not sure what industry you are in, but I don't see anything wrong with what you are describing. What you are doing is very normal in the business world, and typically those who know how to do it right, will succeed in what they are wanting to accomplish
Then I am willing to bet, you are someone who supervision notices, and someone who is able to make the company look good to the clients. Probably you are also someone who is shall we say a poster-boy for the company. They probably like for you to have face time with the clients over some others that may happen to be on your project team.
continue what you are doing, and you will go far in your industry or if you would happen to change industries at another time, you will still continue to reap the rewards.
Then I am willing to bet, you are someone who supervision notices, and someone who is able to make the company look good to the clients. Probably you are also someone who is shall we say a poster-boy for the company. They probably like for you to have face time with the clients over some others that may happen to be on your project team.
continue what you are doing, and you will go far in your industry or if you would happen to change industries at another time, you will still continue to reap the rewards.
I am actually not client facing, but I do marketing for the company globally. And yes, somewhat of a poster child. The execs have been propping me up and basically do what they can to keep me happy and I keep producing a lot of great material we are distributing worldwide. They gave me a 12% raise (and this is without promotion) for my work.
No doubt you are a sociopath and a phony. If you say you know what you are doing is wrong, why do you keep doing it? Probably b/c you don't think it's really wrong and you are all about yourself.
I don't see what you are doing as wrong. If anything you're acting like a team lead. Using positive reinforcement to accomplish goals either current or future.
Any time you get into the "favor trading" business, you can find yourself on a slippery slope.
That said, if you wouldn't mind someone treating you the exact same way, then there's no problem.
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Either way, that still isn't something to go around bragging about and being proud of.
^^^something to reflect upon.
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I don't see what you are doing as wrong. If anything you're acting like a team lead. Using positive reinforcement to accomplish goals either current or future.
Unless there's a whole lot more to your story.
The OP is in marketing which determines your best message and best audience for your product or service.
The OP is using the same methodology with the employees as in marketing. However, when the OP makes
a reply like this on another thread "my advice is to work at McDonald's or better yet White Castle,"
to a confused kid about a career - look for the red flag.
So I am starting to realize I am getting my way a lot, but I am very strategic about. I am not mean or nasty to anyone at work, on the contrary, everyone really enjoys me. It's more using my charm to get things to go my way.
At the end of the day, I don't feel bad about it. I am not stepping on anyone to get what I want, just putting a plan in place to help get my team and my project's work moving ahead.
I really don't think there is anything wrong with it. Opinions? I have just noticed that I am starting to over do it a bit now, but again, I am not hurting anyone's feeling.
For example, taking someone out for lunch because they helped me on a project when they didn't. Well I enjoy that person's personality and enjoyed lunch with them but also took them out so that they felt they would need to help me if need be again cause I am so nice to them. It's kind of 50/50. Anyway I know it's not good to behave this way, but I mean as long as I am not hurting anyone's feelings is it really wrong?
Well, I have one or two questions for you, and then you can decide if what you're doing is wrong.
1. How would you react if you walked up to a coffee break conversation and heard your name and the word manipulator used in the same sentence? Would you be upset? Because it seems that you believe that no one has been able to figure out the way you operate.
2. How do you react when your unrelenting charm does not secure for you whatever it is you are seeking?
Just asking.
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