Extreme jealousy all of a sudden about a friend's new job

[nifear]

Originally Posted by southkakkatlantan

I actually have more responsiblity than she does....we used to work in the same office, so I know...

She works on 2 trials. I work on 8 now. We are both at large research/academic hospitals (different disease groups though)...

Thanks for the genuine input and recommendations though...I did get a good review and my manager said she wants to see me in a management role for our multi-site trials, which would be an opportunity for growth and more money. The green eyed monster just has me focusing on the fact that my friend made that cross over to the higher paying/more pretisgious private sector, which was my goal too

That's great! Being the lead of a coordinating site will definitely be a step up!

Side note, 8 trials? Hope some of them have slow accrual!


Good luck with everything

[angrymillionaire]

OP IMO you are making yourself miserable by judging these people based on one dimension that is their career status & concluding they are better than you.

You need to remind yourself that just because they seem to have surpassed you career wise does not mean you have not surpassed them in other aspects of life. It could be that relationship wise you are doing better.

Look at Tiger Woods, he seemed to be living the charmed life from a distance. Best golfer ever, young, rich, wealthy, beautiful wife etc but see how the truth came to light & it turns out that whole marriage was a lie.

Stop envying these people you dont know enough about their lives to envy them.

[jrsydevil82]

I think you are feeling a normal reaction to the situation. I have a friend who I went to college with. We had the same major. I had trouble landing a job that pertained to our major, and ended up working in insurance. She, on the other hand, now has a good job related to our major, the type of job I wanted. She only brags on facebook, never posts anything negative.

I find myself feeling jealous at times when I see her posts, and when I do, I remind myself of the followng: My job may not be in the field I originally wanted to be in, but I now like my job, I make good money with a good annual bonus and am good at what I do. I just married my best friend & the love of my life, and we love our new home and have 2 wonderful children (dogs lol).

Then, I forget about this girl & the sh*t she brags about. I love my life, why let something so small & petty get to me? Just try to concentrate on your own life, your own accomplishments, and remember: if you work hard at it, your day to brag will come too.