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Not making excuses..just trying to figure out why everyone makes a big deal out of clothes. Its just clothes..Smh..
But it seems YOU are the one making a big deal, or insisting on making a statement, about the clothes cyou wear for work.
Many people so far have pointed out that a: you don't need to try to conform for interviews, and b: who cares anyway: almost everyone on the planet has to conform to some sort of dress code at work.
It's not just you. You are not a special snowflake.
I don't get why you are being so obtuse about this?
My point: If your policy states no jeans, Polo shirts, sneakers, etc ..I DO comply. I have NEVER seen a policy at ANY employer that states, Females should dress feminine and males should dress masculine. In certain situations, I do understand where that may cause conflict. But I'm NOT working around children. My employment has mainly been in offices. Around adults. Who act like children when they see someone not acting "normal"
I am venting. Non violently. I haven't been rude or disrespectful to anyone here. You guys have your point of view. I have mine. Sticking to my guns is being obtuse? Wow..lol. I'm not going to roll over and play dead because someone doesn't like what I'm saying. And I'm not going to lie and say "ok" when I don't agree.
My point: If your policy states no jeans, Polo shirts, sneakers, etc ..I DO comply. I have NEVER seen a policy at ANY employer that states, Females should dress feminine and males should dress masculine. In certain situations, I do understand where that may cause conflict. But I'm NOT working around children. My employment has mainly been in offices. Around adults. Who act like children when they see someone not acting "normal"
Dress however you want, and remain unemployed. Frankly given the fact you can't pass a background check thanks to a criminal past, I don't understand why you insist on drawing so much attention to yourself during the interview process. Were I you, I wouldn't be making g waves at all until I got the job.
I guess in supposed to shut up because you all don't agree...Awwwww..ill start crying momentarily..in the meantime, there is nothing wrong with a difference of opinion. I'm not making any of you post comments. You're posting because you choose to.
I guess in supposed to shut up because you all don't agree...Awwwww..ill start crying momentarily..in the meantime, there is nothing wrong with a difference of opinion. I'm not making any of you post comments. You're posting because you choose to.
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Welp not really.
You signed up, and posted looking for opinions and advice to a public message board.
People responded to you with their opinions and advice. It's the way this process works.
You don't like any of the responses. OK, that's cool and it happens all the time. Mod cut.
I guess in supposed to shut up because you all don't agree...Awwwww..ill start crying momentarily..in the meantime, there is nothing wrong with a difference of opinion. I'm not making any of you post comments. You're posting because you choose to.
No one cares whether you cry or not. You skipped my post but I will say it again: you have a criminal background which precludes you from getting a job. You are in no position to dress differently and as such call attention on yourself. Wear a shirt, slacks and unisex jacket, problem solved.
I'm confused. You are talking about dressing for an interview, correct? If so, there's no "company policy" to adhere to because you're not an employee. Wear whatever you want to a job interview ... just accept the consequences of "being yourself".
Even not in the workplace, butch lesbians who dress up in men's clothes get bitched out. I saw a woman being called a "pants ***" when she was looking at men's pants. Another woman called another woman a dyke at my open Psych session because she wore a man's tshirt. In all the places I've worked I never saw a butch lesbian work there, so they must not be getting past the hiring process in the first place.
Butch lesbians aren't respected just like people don't like gays. I suggest you try to hide it and dress feminine at work.
I'm a MTF crossdresser myself, and I never let work know I crossdress. When they find out and think I'm gay, I don't last long there.
Vernesther, I understand your desire to "be who you are", and I would love, just love to be able to wear t-shirts and shorts and flip flops to work, alas, that is who *I* am. But I cannot because it does not meet the "generally accepted norm" for work attire.
Being openly hostile to the way things are done is not going to be helpful to you getting a job. Some times you have to bend a little. I don't like getting up early, but I have to. I don't like wearing uncomfortable clothes, but sometimes I have to. It's all part of the game of being an employee. It's not a question of right and wrong, it's simply the way things are and if you want a job, you have to play the game.
Now then, when you have your own business, you can dress however you wish, but if you hope to fit into "corporate culture", you're going to have to be willing to give a little. That's just how it is.
You might consider working for a company that is very liberal in its mindset. For instance, working for a theatrical organization or an art organization. These kinds of places tend to be much more understanding of alternate lifestyles than say.... AT & T. I'm sure that where you live there are plenty of artsy-fartsy people around, bohemian kinda thing where a job could present itself. Keep looking and good luck.
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