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If it happens again, report her.
Until then, don't.
She should know better, but maybe she was in a reckless mood (for some reason).
Who cares what others say? Report her if it happens again.
Report her, and if she gets fired, oh well. You are right, if the shoe was on the other foot, you would be canned, her boyfriend would come brain you or worse you would be on the ground with cuffs. Maybe we will start to see a big trend of women sexual predators too. I believe in equal rights, and yours were violated;-)
I agree though I would report it conditionally if possible. Just say that you want the paper trail in case unwarranted passes continues.
Before reporting her, perhaps talking to her would be the first line of defense? If the roles were reversed and it were me, it would have been handled right then and there. Regardless, I think you should firmly tell her that it was unwanted and that you don't expect it will happen again.
I agree, the OP should have handled it "right then and there". How hard is that? I think it would be veeeeery mean spirited of the OP to report this girl.
It's up to you, but if it happened to me, I would talk to the person. I can't imagine getting someone fired for grabbing my butt, seems pretty extreme to me unless I asked them to stop and they kept doing it.
I agree, the OP should have handled it "right then and there". How hard is that? I think it would be veeeeery mean spirited of the OP to report this girl.
It depends. You wouldn't want to talk about that in front of customers and who knows if he was able to actually talk to the girl to say, "I didn't appreciate that."
Go to her supervisor and report her she violated your personal space and she also commited sexual harassment . If she gets fired oh well she will know better next time . Do not let this go , she has obviously done this before and gotten away with it . Be the one who stops her . Sorry but this girl needs to learn how to act while on the job . I guarantee you if you were the one who did the butt grabing and she was the receiver she would not hesitate to report you ....
Go to her supervisor and report her she violated your personal space and she also commited sexual harassment . If she gets fired oh well she will know better next time . Do not let this go , she has obviously done this before and gotten away with it . Be the one who stops her . Sorry but this girl needs to learn how to act while on the job . I guarantee you if you were the one who did the butt grabing and she was the receiver she would not hesitate to report you ....
Nobody, not even the OP, knows for sure if this was a genuine grab or a accidental brush against the guy's butt. Before I start accusing someone of sexual harassment, which is a very serious charge, I would make 100% sure it actually WAS a pinch on the booty. You could very easily ruin someone's life by making this accusation, potentially causing this girl to lose her job and like you said, she's a single mother who clearly needs the job.
To OP: you sound extremely naïve and inexperienced. Don't go off half-cocked until you know the facts. If she's flirting with you and you're not interested, say "thanks, but no thanks" and LET IT GO.
It's not like she reached around and grabbed your genitals.
I'd say if she isn't your supervisor and you have no reason to think this was malicious, just let it go. If she's a single mom, her day is probably 90% work and taking care of her kid and perhaps she's just awkward, doesn't get out much etc... It's not that unusual for single moms to have little opportunity outside work to get male attention if they're dedicated to taking care of their kid. They're not all like Casey Anthony thankfully.
However, if this woman has a reputation for creating drama absolutely report it.
It sounds more like she was off balance from stepping on your shoe, put a hand out to try to steady herself, and it connected with your butt.
I know you want to protect yourself and make sure no one violates your rights, but if you report it and it turns out she was just falling (maybe there's a camera by the timeclock? ), it's going to seem like you overreacted quite a bit.
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