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They could have stated who paid the tab and whether it was during business hours/on the clock.
Seriously? It seems pretty obvious.
"Upper management (CEO, CTO, Director, and Facility Manager) invite 3 Supervisor's to a dinner to discuss roles and company as well as a thank you for their hard work."
so, accepting to go to a dinner with upper management, then just not showing up to it without kindly declining or saying he wont be there, is ok?
i guess if there isn't an interest to move up in the company or give a good impression to the CEO, then this is ok?
Yes, I think its OK. I would say that response would be something i would do too. As an employee, I may not want to socialize with other employees, including management. Unless attendance was required, he had every right to not go for any reason. If your CEO was offended, then i suspect whoever sent the invitations didnt express the need to attend correctly. He may not be interested in "moving up" and I'm sure he knows that not attending could endanger that. hes not looking to be anybodys Bi$#h. However, you would have to consider why you wouldnt promote him if hes good at his job and if his promotion would be the best for the business. Do you not do whats best fro the company because a guy didnt go to dinner and brown nose the leaders? You know hes shy, leave him alone and be thankful hes an otherwise great employee.
Manager: Hey, you realize that was perceived as disrespectful, right?
Supervisor: Sorry, thought it was kind of an optional thing, and __________ insert whatever reasoning here.
Manager: Sure, it may have been optional, but it was effectively career suicide. It's also optional to consider you for future promotions that may involve political skills. You may want to consider some damage control down the line if it's important to you. if not, no big deal. Good? Go out and get back to work, since the only thing saving your skin right now is results.
Supervisor: Ok, well I give you a full 60 hours a week and based on my reviews for the last XX years, i have been a very high performer. My time is my time and this was positioned as an optional event. I'm happy in my job and not interested in moving up. If thats going to be a propblem, I will be happy to take my industry knowledge and strong work ethic elsewhere.
Upper management (CEO, CTO, Director, and Facility Manager) invite 3 Supervisor's to a dinner to discuss roles and company as well as a thank you for their hard work.
Invites in outlook are sent out 3 weeks prior. All are aware.
The night of the dinner, everyone but one supervisor shows up to the restaurant. Everyone sits at the table wondering where the supervisor is. The Facility Manager calls and texts, but no response.
On monday, the Director speaks with the supervisor and the supervisors response is "i was tired and didn't feel like going" .
Although it is known that the supervisor is not very social and is shy, this is just plain rude and disrespectful. The supervisor is GREAT at their job regarding work productivity and knowledge.
wondering how to deal with this situation. The supervisor didn't violate a company policy directly, but this is just rude.
Any input or help would be appreciated.
UPDATE: The supervisor accepted the invite. The supervisor never called or informed anyone he would not be attending. So, everyone was waiting at the table. Then they started trying to contact him.
The person being disrespectful here is the boss. Keep work at work. I hate it when the boss thinks he owns an employee. You go to work so you can get paid to socialize with whomever you please.
Supervisor: Ok, well I give you a full 60 hours a week and based on my reviews for the last XX years, i have been a very high performer. My time is my time and this was positioned as an optional event. I'm happy in my job and not interested in moving up. If thats going to be a propblem, I will be happy to take my industry knowledge and strong work ethic elsewhere.
CEO: Well, that's very unfortunate. We would have liked to have had your input on the upcoming reorganization. Bob thought you might be a good choice to lead the new group, but Mary made a pretty strong sell as to why she should head it. Looks like you'll be working for her now.
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The person being disrespectful here is the boss. Keep work at work. I hate it when the boss thinks he owns an employee. You go to work so you can get paid to socialize with whomever you please.
In professional jobs this is not the reality. These people were all in management / supervisory positions. That isn't 9-5 or even 8-6 work. There is before work and after work and weekend communication, some of it social. That is the reality of the world. Heck, I'll be at a bar with my boss this weekend when our colleges play each other. Not my first choice, but she invited me and it is the smart choice.
Supervisor: Ok, well I give you a full 60 hours a week and based on my reviews for the last XX years, i have been a very high performer. My time is my time and this was positioned as an optional event. I'm happy in my job and not interested in moving up. If thats going to be a propblem, I will be happy to take my industry knowledge and strong work ethic elsewhere.
Manager: Exactly. Don't want to move up? No problem - get back out and keep performing at a high level. Like I said
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You may want to consider some damage control down the line if it's important to you. if not, no big deal. Good? Go out and get back to work, since the only thing saving your skin right now is results.
Please read the first post again, absorb the very plainly written description of the dinner invitation (which was given and responded to in the affirmative) and then please explain your comment. Just for the heck of it ...
The person being disrespectful here is the boss. Keep work at work. I hate it when the boss thinks he owns an employee. You go to work so you can get paid to socialize with whomever you please.
Don't you also hate it when someone RSVP's for an appreciation dinner, then doesn't show up? And when politely asked about it on Monday, provides some lame excuse about being tired?
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Please read the first post again, absorb the very plainly written description of the dinner invitation (which was given and responded to in the affirmative) and then please explain your comment. Just for the heck of it ...
