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When I was fired from a number of previous employers it pretty much destroyed me. I had a hard time moving forward and living with myself. I was failure! I bombed! I could not do the job! They did not respect me! I wasn't smart enough! (You get the idea!)
It is easy to rationalize why I was fired but decisions like that are not reached by one man at these types of organizations. Many levels of managers have to sign off my termination. They all agreed, I was not worthy to continue.
So IF YOU have been fired in the past, how do you live with yourself?
By not having a horrible attitude about situation and immediately stating the steps to find a new job. When I was laid off from my last job and friend and I went to a bar to commiserate, i had my laptop with me and I sent out my first application while I was at the bar. I had confidence in my skills, abilities, and in my background and knew that I could find something in a short amount of time.
I think Hara Kiri is necessary whenever you are fired. You have to protect your family honor after all.
I was fired from a Newspaper throwing job that I was no good at once. It didn't effect me because I didn't care. When you really try at something and then fail, you have a problem. I feel like with enough motivation people can be good at just about anything, regardless of their background. Mental acuity has to be there though.
There are people who drive drunk and run over children out trick or treating, and no one knows how they live with themselves, and you're worrying about living with yourself after getting fired? Sorry but you need some perspective.
Funny people come in here to comment when they have never been fired.
I was fired from my very first job, it was a bagger position (I was 14) at the local grocery store. I requested 09/11 - that's right, 9/11/2001 - off from work and the supervisor thought I meant 9-11 weeks off, I kept coming into work and checking the schedule, but they never put me on. About 4 weeks later they scheduled me, so I went to work. About half way through my shift the supervisor told me to go talk with her, so I did and she said due to my absence they would have to let me go. I was dumbfounded and explained how that was bogus. Then she asked me if I wanted to finish my shift or leave right then and I said "what do you think?" and walked out.
In that moment I was pissed because they messed up (I was in school so I didn't mind having the time off actually, but I would have worked if scheduled).
My first professional job I had a boss threaten to fire me in an email, I quit that very day. I wasn't pissed then, other than the carelessness of the boss. I was planning on leaving in a few months away, not a big deal.
I was fired twice during a working life of 50 years, once at 22 and once at 39. I didn't collapse in a pool of angst and wallow in it, had no problem living with myself (how dramatic!), just picked myself up, dusted myself off and hit the track to find another job.
It was hard to be honest. I just lived unhappily. I had add. Do you?
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