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Saw this in some movie but never experienced it at workplace. In the movie the reason an employer was pushing the employee to get married was because married people are less likely to change jobs so that way an employer can rely on them for long term. I dont think it matters anymore. Its easier now than before to move to a different town & start a new job. So marital status doesn't matter.
Hmm...as a single 39 year-old childless female, I think this is probably the most potentially offensive thing I've seen in here all day.
I didn't choose to be single and childless at this age. It chose me. I can't meet a decent man to save my life, and I didn't intend to never have children. My ex-husband chose his mother over me. (I drew the short straw in the mother-in-law stakes. She's a psycho.)
So, as someone in this position...I'd be pretty damn pissed if someone was promoted over me simply because they had bred and managed not to get divorced (yet).
Let me guess, were you offended by the fact that our society has become family/child hostile? You display your attitude toward someone who "had bred and managed not to get divorced." That hostility might be so pervasive that you don't even realize you are controlled by it.
The other possibility is my comment that anyone capable of being in a stable relationship already has one. This irritates you because the fact that you are single is everyone else's fault. It apparently hasn't occurred to you that, if that is your goal, you aren't going to get there. That's not judgmental on my part. If that is who you are, go for it. There are a lot of things pulling us in different directions in modern society. If your bottom line is that it's just not worth it, accept that and move on.
Pressure to marry from your employer??? Who do you work for, the Italian Mama's Coalition?
The employer in question was a major intercity trucking line (though I worked in the Central Dispatch Office -- not as a driver). It went out of business about eight years later, as a consequence of deregulation.
I'm happily single, although I would welcome the opportunity to get married if I found the right guy. But I never wanted children and being in my late 40s, I couldn't have them now anyway. So in cover letters for jobs that require travel and long committed hours, I highlight that my lifestyle is flexible and adaptable and allows me to travel at a moment's notice and put in long hours on special occasions. I believe these very words helped me in the current interview process I'm in right now and hopefully, lead to a new job.
Married life is overrated (just reference divorce rates) and is not for everyone.
I worked in different types of industries and sizes of companies. People would ask if you were married or not, but I never personally saw in "pressure" of people wanting their co-workers to be married. I think overall most co-workers could care less about the topic generally speaking.
If anything in this day and age (or within the past decade or so from what I have observed), single employees are often "preferred" in promotions because they can more easily and more quickly transfer to another office in another city (or country) than someone else married with family.
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