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Old 04-03-2015, 09:44 AM
 
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Is is possible to politely decline eating lunch with coworkers everyday? How do you do it without offending anyone? For example if your teams likes to go out to eat everyday and you just can't afford it what would you say without everyone thinking you're cheap or broke?
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Old 04-03-2015, 09:56 AM
 
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I got tired of eating lunch with co-workers. I just go the local grocery and pick up some lunch. I don't like the politics of eating lunch. I am a celiac, so I tell people I can't eat wheat. Sometimes over my career, I have found people I enjoy eating lunch with. But at other times, I end up with people who a) try to be dominant or b) badmouth the company or bosses or c) have other issues. I also want a short lunch break, like 15 minutes. I don't like taking a long lunch.
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Old 04-03-2015, 09:56 AM
 
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"Thanks for the invite, but I'm on a strict budget."
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Old 04-03-2015, 09:58 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles
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Or thanks for the invite but I brought my lunch.
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Old 04-03-2015, 10:00 AM
 
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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Is is possible to politely decline eating lunch with coworkers everyday? How do you do it without offending anyone? For example if your teams likes to go out to eat everyday and you just can't afford it what would you say without everyone thinking you're cheap or broke?
Yes, I used to decline a lot because I really couldn't afford to go out to eat as often as they did. I would just say, "Oh, sorry, I have errands to run" or "I have other plans" or "I am determined to lose a few so I'm walking at lunchtime."

After a while they didn't ask me much anymore. But then, I got to the opposite point where I realized I had removed myself from the circles of the people who were at my level and with whom I should be keeping up some sort of relationship, so I started carting in my lunch to save money so that once or twice a month I COULD go to lunch with them, and I started to ask if they had tried to the new Thai place and why don't we all go. It worked out. Balance is the key.
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Old 04-03-2015, 10:36 AM
 
Location: USA
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I usually take my breaks and lunches outside in my car and either read or listen to the radio. I'm not part of the "clique" at my workplace and have never been invited.
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Old 04-03-2015, 10:41 AM
 
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I got tired of eating lunch with co-workers. I just go the local grocery and pick up some lunch. I don't like the politics of eating lunch. I am a celiac, so I tell people I can't eat wheat. Sometimes over my career, I have found people I enjoy eating lunch with. But at other times, I end up with people who a) try to be dominant or b) badmouth the company or bosses or c) have other issues. I also want a short lunch break, like 15 minutes. I don't like taking a long lunch.
Yeah, whenever I eat lunch with coworkers, they often badmouth other people in the office. That or they start talking about work (I'm not being paid for my lunch time, so I don't want to hear it), or they start talking about their personal lives, which I could care less about.

I try to run out the door as early as possible before someone asks me to join them for lunch.
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Old 04-03-2015, 10:47 AM
 
Location: HoCo, MD
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Is is possible to politely decline eating lunch with coworkers everyday? How do you do it without offending anyone? For example if your teams likes to go out to eat everyday and you just can't afford it what would you say without everyone thinking you're cheap or broke?
Not only is it possible, I'd say it's harder to not be polite. It's just lunch. If you decline (for whatever reason) and someone gets offended, then the issue is them, not you.
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Old 04-03-2015, 11:14 AM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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"Thanks for the invite, but I'm on a strict budget."
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Or thanks for the invite but I brought my lunch.
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Yes, I used to decline a lot because I really couldn't afford to go out to eat as often as they did. I would just say, "Oh, sorry, I have errands to run" or "I have other plans" or "I am determined to lose a few so I'm walking at lunchtime."

After a while they didn't ask me much anymore. But then, I got to the opposite point where I realized I had removed myself from the circles of the people who were at my level and with whom I should be keeping up some sort of relationship, so I started carting in my lunch to save money so that once or twice a month I COULD go to lunch with them, and I started to ask if they had tried to the new Thai place and why don't we all go. It worked out. Balance is the key.
Good points.
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Old 04-03-2015, 11:22 AM
 
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"Thanks but brought my lunch today!" if they have an issue with that, that's on them. it's all about office culture. at my current work no one goes out to eat together b/c everyone is busy working through their lunch. it'd actually seem kinda weird to go out together in groups.
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