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About twice a week I run into one of the owners of a company I worked for, and he was the one partner who had me fired from that job. He is a nasty SOB, but when he sees me he makes a point of coming over and chatting as if we are long lost friends. What do I do ? I treat him nicely and we talk as if nothing happened, because I have moved on and he actually did me a favor because I found a better job after they terminated me.
I also do not like burning bridges just because it makes me feel better. You never know where the future will take you, and I might need him for something some day.
But I did get some satisfaction one time. A new general manager, who was also involved in that firing, one day walked into the new company where I was working, and he told me he had been let go and was wondering if we were hiring ! It felt so damn good to tell him to leave me his resume and that I would call him if we had any openings ! (Funny, but we never did have any openings after that)
Have you ever been backstabbed or thrown under the bus by coworkers? If so, how did you act when you ran into them later?
You should act super successful and act like you are on top of the world! That would be my advice. Talk to them pleasantly as if they are beneath you so far that you can't possibly be reached anymore. Your home life is so good, you can't help but to smile at all times and wondering if you are indeed living the dream!
Early in my career I ran across and idiot who was almost to the day the same age as me but was a tier higher and of course in the ways of the young and stupid he felt the need to show me in every way possible that I was his subordinate.
Now having a backbone and a sense of self worth this didn't sit all that well with me. He was a complete a-hole and I was of course acting in kind like an a-hole.
Eventually I was promoted to the same level in a different dept and shortly there after moved cities and forgot all about that POS.
14 years later I am visiting my parents for the holidays and take my family to a local farm that has hayrides and sells produce, etc.
While looking for the perfect pumpkin I spot my old nemesis working at the farm lugging pumpkins. Without malice I make eye contact, use his name, say hi and extend my hand.
He looks at my hand sneers and gives me his back. Nasty little bastard that he is.
So, we load up on apples, pumpkins, cider and the like and as we are checking out the cashier asks if we need help out to load the car.
"Yes, yes we do need help to the car. I had a friend who once worked here, his name is C****"
The cashier paiges him and two minutes later he rolls into the shop, hits a full stop when he sees it's me, my lovely wife and children. He turns tail and runs out.
The cashier is confused and asks what happened, I tell her that I guess he wasn't happy to see me and that I was his old parole officer.
As we leave I see her gathering the other cashiers priming the rumor mill.
Early in my career I ran across and idiot who was almost to the day the same age as me but was a tier higher and of course in the ways of the young and stupid he felt the need to show me in every way possible that I was his subordinate.
Now having a backbone and a sense of self worth this didn't sit all that well with me. He was a complete a-hole and I was of course acting in kind like an a-hole.
Eventually I was promoted to the same level in a different dept and shortly there after moved cities and forgot all about that POS.
14 years later I am visiting my parents for the holidays and take my family to a local farm that has hayrides and sells produce, etc.
While looking for the perfect pumpkin I spot my old nemesis working at the farm lugging pumpkins. Without malice I make eye contact, use his name, say hi and extend my hand.
He looks at my hand sneers and gives me his back. Nasty little bastard that he is.
So, we load up on apples, pumpkins, cider and the like and as we are checking out the cashier asks if we need help out to load the car.
"Yes, yes we do need help to the car. I had a friend who once worked here, his name is C****"
The cashier paiges him and two minutes later he rolls into the shop, hits a full stop when he sees it's me, my lovely wife and children. He turns tail and runs out.
The cashier is confused and asks what happened, I tell her that I guess he wasn't happy to see me and that I was his old parole officer.
As we leave I see her gathering the other cashiers priming the rumor mill.
I was rooting for you the first half of your post. Then it seemed you started playing games, and you were no better than your nemesis. Too bad. You seem to be cut from the same cloth.
I was rooting for you the first half of your post. Then it seemed you started playing games, and you were no better than your nemesis. Too bad. You seem to be cut from the same cloth.
I had one coworker that threw me under the bus, I didn't find out until later. We both worked for a horrid woman who would pick one person on the team to blame all the issues for. My coworker jumped on this bad wagon and started piling on blame for more and more things. It was an absolute nightmare.
I left for a new position, she emailed me months afterwards to apologize. She started receiving the wrath of our boss and said she was the new scapegoat.
At least she came to her senses. Toxic bosses wield a lot of influence & fear on people. Sooner or later, that boss will reap what she does. May take awhile but it will happen.
I just posted on another thread about such an issue.
I’ve always been able to be publicly polite to those I don’t like. Occasionally, I found a person more pleasant away from the office.
I worked with a longtime friend who backstabbed me awhile back. I hope I can be cordial if I see him somewhere. I’ve bounced back from the situation but he totally betrayed my trust & could have wrecked my livelihood. This is 1 of the few times I struggle with forgiveness. Forgiveness is generally part of my nature.
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