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Assuming everything else is perfect, would you date a bartender or a waiter for example?
This was talked about in the relationships forum, but I thought it could be discussed here in more detail from a woman's point of view.
My issue with it is the judgment you will receive from everyone else.
Let's say you're a lawyer that makes 100k and you are surrounded by very educated and ambitious corporate people. And he makes 30k as a waiter.
Your bosses will find out about it. He might end up talking to them at a Christmas party. They might come into the restaurant he works in.
Would it bother you? If the tables were flipped around it would be a different story. In general, the man making more (or close enough) is still the norm.
You better date someone better looking than you too or the public might judge it poorly too. Better be the same race,color as well. Let's throw in religion as well.
What does it matter what other people think of your SO? As long as the two of you are happy, it has no bearing what his income is.
FWIW, I know plenty of people that make loads of money and have fancy titles that are a lot less pleasant to be around than service workers. Your job title does not define your intelligence or character.
What I would be worried about is the economic inequity as the lower earning person. There's practical consideration of how discrepancies in earnings and lifestyle can skew the power in a relationship.
It's funny how the higher earning person is always seen as the one with the tough decision to make. It should be the lower earning person.
If I met a woman who made a ton more than me, I might balk.
Well in some social circles, especially in the upper class, there is A TON of pressure. When your job is involved it gets complicated. I guess you just have to suck it up and brush off the judgmental looks of shock.
Well why they are just a waiter says more than the money they make. Why aren't they educated? Why haven't they pursued something better? Why haven't they achieved more? Money is the #1 reason for divorce.
Wouldn't bother me a bit but we were discussing it at work (in an office )one day and all my young co-workers were against the idea. At least they woudn't do it and claimed they wanted someone educated and a decent job. Insinuating that these blue collar guys are not smart or couldn't get a degree or didn't have a decent job. I disagree, as long as they are hard working I don't care.
Would I date a guy with a blue collar job? Sure, why not. If everything else about him suits me, I don't care how much he earns.
The only reason I wouldn't would be if the guy had a low IQ, no ambition, no manners, or no communication skills. None of that has anything to do with what sort of job a man works.
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Insinuating that these blue collar guys are not smart or couldn't get a degree or didn't have a decent job. I disagree, as long as they are hard working I don't care.
