Who Works the Exact Opposite Hours as Your Spouse/SO? (job, income)

[Forever Blue]

So, my BF works M-F 3:00pm - 11:30pm. He may have overtime here & there in which he may get off as late as about 2:00am. I'm in school now, but once I get back out there & work in the type of industry I'm in school for, I'll be working M-F 7:30am - 3:00pm...at times, an hour later.

So as you can see, we would be working completely opposite schedules & may not see each other . For couples who live like this, well, HOW do you live like this? Do you just grin & bear it & make the very MOST out of your weekends, that is, IF neither of you aren't tired? How do you keep this up for years & years?

[MLSFan]

if he slept from 7am to 2pm and you sleep from 4pm to midnight... the two of you can paint the town red from midnight to 7am

hey... if you two enjoy nightlife, it'd be perfect

[veuvegirl]

Hubby and I did it for two years. It was tough but necessary for our needs at the time. We made sure we did plenty of date nights, weekend getaways etc.

[AK-Cathy]

My DH and I worked on opposite shifts for several years (3-4) to deal with dogs with separation anxiety issues. More than a couple times DH was getting into bed as I was getting out. We had only one day off in common.

Like others said, we made plans for our days off and vacation and made the most of our passing moments in the foyer or driveway. We were married for over a decade when this happened. I think it would be harder to be a new couple doing this though.

[Forever Blue]

Sounds logical guys!

eyeb, neither of us aren't, so that's out!

[bande1102]

We did this for a few years early in our marriage when we had our first child. Husband was off two days during the week and I was off on weekends so, while we didn't have entire days off, we did have several half-days. It was awful. Small issues can build into big ones really fast when you can't talk thru things. And then we didn't talk about problems because we just wanted to have fun when we were together.

I ended up negotiating for a day off during the week and making up the time during my normal work days. It was better. Ultimately, though, we synced up our schedules and are much happier.

[00na]

My husband and I do this now. He works weekends so that he can be home for 2 weekdays with our young children. He also shifts his weekday workdays later to do school drop off. I work M-F shifted earlier and have weekends off. On the plus side, this schedule helps us minimize the amount of outside childcare we need. On the minus side, we have very small windows of time when the entire family can be together. We make it a point to have dinner together a few times per week and also take a family vacation annually. It is tough, and I look forward to the day that we no longer have to do it. If that day ever comes.

[Tigeru]

Isn't the "exact opposite" of 3-11 pm going to be 3-11 am? If you don't need the income one should quit.

[Letsgo2020]

I have 4 different schedule a week and this moment I off on Tues and Wed.
I'm leaving home at 9:30am coming home at 9:30 or later, this almost every day.
My husband leaves after 6 am is home at 5 pm.
We see each other in morning 10 min and at my days off or weekends a little more.
No, I have no weekends off and I'm not working in retail.

[germaine2626]

For about ten years I left for work at 7:30 AM and returned anywhere between 6 - 7PM and my husband left for work at 10:30 PM and returned about 7:30 AM. Our kids were in HS & college at the time.

Frankly, it wasn't a problem at all. In fact, it worked out very well. My husband and I even were able to share a car for that entire time. As soon as he got home from his job I would get into the car and drive to my job. We had plenty of time together in the evening and on weekends.

Perhaps the difference is that we were married for 25 years at the time and our children were older.