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Like I suggested to my friends that, while on lunch, I could pretend to have a conversation on my phone, where I beat someone up real bad, or something, but my friends said that this was the wrong approach, and will make things worse.
That is a terrible idea. Why do I have the feeling that you were homeschooled? You couldn't have gone through life and never met people like that.
The bullies act like children. Children scream and throw tantrums to get your attention. No insult in the world will make them stop. The only way to make them stop is to convince them it won't get your attention by never paying attention to it.
They come over and yell at you because they want you to respond back. If you respond back, in any way whatsoever, then they got what they wanted, and will do it again and again. Most people learn this in grade school. It's been a while, you might have forgotten, that's okay.
Ignore them. Keep ignoring them. If they scream at you, put on a poker face, make eye contact for 3 seconds so they know you heard them, then do not respond in any other way, and turn around and go back to your work. Do not engage. Period. All they can do is keep screaming.
If they TOUCH you, call the police. Feel free to tell them that if you think they might: "if you touch me I will call the police". And that's it. Otherwise, mouth shut, poker face. Tune out the screaming. If you do it right, it becomes funny. They sound just like a potty mouthed 6 year old on the playground. Be the adult and ignore it and do your job. End of story.
Okay thanks, but I have done the ignoring thing already and it's not working. These are the types of bullies who will not be ignored. So if ignoring them is not going to work, and responding to them is not going to work, cause they want that, what next?
In school it worked, but these ones have taken it up quite a few notches compared to a school kid. What if ignoring them is not working, and they are coming at me more and more aggressively because of it.
Okay thanks, but I have done the ignoring thing already and it's not working. These are the types of bullies who will not be ignored. So if ignoring them is not going to work, and responding to them is not going to work, cause they want that, what next?
In school it worked, but these ones have taken it up quite a few notches compared to a school kid. What if ignoring them is not working, and they are coming at me more and more aggressively because of it.
Dude. Just ignore them forever. THEY DON'T MATTER.
Why can't you ignore them? Do they touch you? Shove you? Get in your space? What? If not, then they can be ignored. FOREVER.
I would flat out say why do you keep f'in with me? If they respond with "i'm just playing around or joking" Smile and say it's all good. Oddly some people show they like you by messing with you.
Now if they say "because i don't like you" then there is nothing to do about that but look for another job. They will keep it up until you quit anyway.
Oh these people definitely do not like others, I can tell the difference.
The reason why I cannot ignore them anymore, is because I cannot stand to listen to it anymore. If I ignore it, my ears can still here it, which I can no longer stand. I am going to do something about it sooner or later, it's just a question of what is the best approach, because it's gotten to the point where I cannot stand to listen it anymore.
I am looking for a new job, but I would like to see stay at this to make money until I get the new one of course.
What insults should I use then? I am not very good at this, so what should I say to intimidate them to back off?
NOTHING. I truly hope you were kidding about saying those things to her. If you do you will get fired, and rightly so. That stuff you want to shout will make you sound unhinged.
Take the high road. Go to HR if you want, but if you repeat what is going on with that degree of emotion you are expressing here, they will never take you seriously (again, you will appear unhinged). Calm yourself down and get some perspective, then calmly and professionally write out your complaints and send them to HR. You MUST keep emotion out of it.
I have worked with bullies before, but I choose always to take the high road, and have found responding with kindness regardless of how they talk to me, usually results in an end to it more so than going off the deep end does. If you really say all that to them, they will wait till you leave then laugh about how nuts you are.
My mother, when I used to complain that my older brother was picking on me, would always say "If you didn't react, he would stop doing it".
Well they say crude and rude things to other people and do not get fired, so if say something back, what's the difference?
I can take the high road, but ignoring does not work, cause I still have to hear it. I have to stop the problem, not ignore it, and still let it be there.
Well I could say that but it was already established that insulting remarks are a bad idea.
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