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How do you feel about these sorts of things, from your perspective as a customer?
The last thing I want to see is a frown. If you are in a customer-facing position, it's your job to make the customer feel welcome. If you can't do that, find another line of work. (Not you specifically )
It's ingratiating and obnoxious. I also hate when a cashier or server reads my name from my credit card, and then uses it when returning the card. If I want you to use my name, I'll introduce myself.
It's a wrong concept of introversion that being introverted means not to "like dealing with the public." That's not being introverted, that's just being a jerk.
Introversion means a person values and uses his "alone time" to recharge, grow, and re-discover who he is. Introversion doesn't mean he necessarily has any problem being as outgoing and pleasant as anyone else, and an introvert can be extremely adept and successful in public.
An extrovert must be with people to do those same things, and that doesn't mean an extrovert is necessarily adept in dealing with other people. I know some people who can't stand being alone--extroverts--and are still socially clumsy.
Ugh...the constant recitation of the definition of a introvert is becoming almost as tiresome as hearing someone who has taken one statistics class (or less) gleefully mouth the words "correlation is not causation". That said, the rest of your "definition" is incorrect - introverts don't use alone time to "rediscover" thmeselves - I know quite who I am.
As an introvert, yes, I recharge better alone. Which means that working with people is MORE effort to me than working alone. So YES, I'm not completely inept with people (that would be close to autistic, or something, right?) but that's mostly semantics. I prefer not to work with people because it is exhausting over a certain amount of time that is much lower than what others can take. When I'm exhausted I may be a bit jerkier than my good-natured normal self...the same way an extrovert would be, just much sooner.
It's ingratiating and obnoxious. I also hate when a cashier or server reads my name from my credit card, and then uses it when returning the card. If I want you to use my name, I'll introduce myself.
If you want creepy, it's when they know your name as you walk up to the register because of different ways you were identified when you walked into the store.
OTOH, when I go into my favorite breakfast shop, the staff has my usual halfway prepared by the time I get to the counter. At my favorite hardware store, they know me by name. I know the staff at both places by first name. Also, my wife and I know many of the waitstaff at our favorite restaurants by name.
I make a point of greeting them all by name. I check nametags of cashiers and give them a "have a good day" by name (those with Hispanic, Middle Eastern, or Asian names are usually pleasantly surprised that I know how to pronounce them properly...but I've been places).
In all those cases it tends to result in better service, a bit extra when their jobs don't really require that bit extra. Most people prefer being treated like a person, including introverts.
I hate it. Guitar Center does that. Makes the salesman come up and initiate a conversation. Beyond annoying. So, I stopped going there. All "buy local" now.
Ugh...the constant recitation of the definition of a introvert is becoming almost as tiresome as hearing someone who has taken one statistics class (or less) gleefully mouth the words "correlation is not causation". That said, the rest of your "definition" is incorrect - introverts don't use alone time to "rediscover" thmeselves - I know quite who I am.
As an introvert, yes, I recharge better alone. Which means that working with people is MORE effort to me than working alone. So YES, I'm not completely inept with people (that would be close to autistic, or something, right?) but that's mostly semantics. I prefer not to work with people because it is exhausting over a certain amount of time that is much lower than what others can take. When I'm exhausted I may be a bit jerkier than my good-natured normal self...the same way an extrovert would be, just much sooner.
Ugh...the constant recitation of the definition of a introvert is becoming almost as tiresome as hearing someone who has taken one statistics class (or less) gleefully mouth the words "correlation is not causation". That said, the rest of your "definition" is incorrect - introverts don't use alone time to "rediscover" thmeselves - I know quite who I am.
As an introvert, yes, I recharge better alone. Which means that working with people is MORE effort to me than working alone. So YES, I'm not completely inept with people (that would be close to autistic, or something, right?) but that's mostly semantics. I prefer not to work with people because it is exhausting over a certain amount of time that is much lower than what others can take. When I'm exhausted I may be a bit jerkier than my good-natured normal self...the same way an extrovert would be, just much sooner.
But thanks for the education
After having been an introvert since the 1950s, I've figured out some things about living it beyond what you think you know. And 15 of those years were even in Bloomington IL.
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