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I have been told by a number of people that two different people who work with me are gossiping about me. They are making up lies to destroy my reputation in the office and make me look bad to both senior managers and coworkers. Why are they doing this? Because a group of us are all trying to get a promotion and more interesting assignments. So if I look bad, maybe I won't get the promotion, and they have less competition.What should I do?
You can't really do much. Make your superiors know there's a few people that are jealous of you so not to be surprised if they hear any rumors. Remember, these losers at work are not your friends. Don't talk to them as it will just make matters worse. There is a difference between acquaintances and friends. Hope you know and understand the difference.
You can't really do much. Make your superiors know there's a few people that are jealous of you so not to be surprised if they hear any rumors. Remember, these losers at work are not your friends. Don't talk to them as it will just make matters worse. There is a difference between acquaintances and friends. Hope you know and understand the difference.
I think of coworkers as "random people I share an office with."
This is a tough one. Supervisors really don't want to be drawn into the drama. So approaching them might put a target on your back...even though you would be trying to clear up lies perpetrated by jealous co-workers.
I feel like if they are saying something about the job that you do perhaps discuss that with your supervisor. Approach it by saying a few co-workers have called your attention to this....so that it is less a she said/he said type situation.
Otherwise, if it were me and several people had told me what you said that your co-workers have told you....I'd go right to the source.
In fact, if you do want to address this with your supervisor....I'd call a mediation meeting with the culprits and your higher ups....and confront the situation head on.
Or, Maybe you should go to the HR and see if they can hold a meeting between yourself and these culprits, before approaching your supervisor.
If it is work related, it is important to dispel these rumors in the most professional way that you can. It will win you points I believe....and it will put the spotlight on the co-workers who are behaving so badly.
Here are a few links with some tips and advice: Judging by the amount of links this must be a common work related problem. Several more links are available. In case you want more links I searched using this sentence: "How to confront co-workers who are sabotaging you professionally"
I have been told by a number of people that two different people who work with me are gossiping about me. They are making up lies to destroy my reputation in the office and make me look bad to both senior managers and coworkers. Why are they doing this? Because a group of us are all trying to get a promotion and more interesting assignments. So if I look bad, maybe I won't get the promotion, and they have less competition.What should I do?
If the gossiper is causing a damage to your reputation and if you don’t expect him to stop soon then call him when are calm. Tell him that you are aware of his doings and that only those who are scared to face one another directly gossip. Most people will apologise and remember your call the next time they decide to gossip about you. Make sure not to threaten them because threatening will stimulate their anger and this stored anger will be released through more gossiping.
people aren't blind... if your work ethic and quality of your work can't speak for itself, you have more problems to worry about than gossip
That is an interesting comment. So you think the average manager is going to believe the best about other people and won't accept gossip and make up their own opinion about us. The average person is logical and fair. Interesting perspective.
Years ago I worked at a site where a few women I worked with, I knew were gossiping and bad mouthing me. I confirmed it (but didn't say anything) as I waked by 1 of their desks to put something down and saw an email sent between people about me (yes I looked as I glanced when I saw my name). It was very noticeable how poorly many of my coworkers treated me. I could explain why I think that is, but people here will probably think I'm flattering myself or just not believe me. My boss called me in once (I never went to her about this) and said that she has noticed how I get treated, but that it isn't her job to tell people to be nice to me (those were her words....). As it so happened months down the road, I realized my boss was in on it too.... I could never prove any of this. It was the only work environment that I've ever had where I could say it was toxic.
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