Do you allow fellow employees to be your friends outside of work? (paid, money)
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Yes. I consider myself fortunate to work with people I like enough to be friends with. It does help that we don't have overlapping jobs or job titles, so there's little to no competition.
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Originally Posted by JBAinTexas
Or do you believe there are boundaries, where work people stay at work, and you find friends who don't work with you?
Why or why not?
Hell no! I made the mistake of trying to befriend coworkers outside of work and all I got was rejection. Never again will I beftiend current coworkers, once I leave the job, then I may let you be a friend when you can't get me into trouble any longer.
If it seems that there's nothing else to talk about besides work, it won't work out, it wasn't meant to be.
This has been my experience for the most part.
I've only worked at two jobs in my life. The first one was at a printing and mailing company as a courier, so I was out driving by myself most of the time and couldn't talk to any of the other employees. But I did have about an hour of other duties in the building at the end of my shift and would be polite and friendly towards those who treated me the same, the rest were ignored. That was when I was fresh out of high school (just over 4 years ago) and only had that job for about 7 months. Never really got close with anyone there and never hung out outside of work.
My second job was at a Chrysler dealership as a tech. I worked in the shop and was around service writers, parts guys, other techs, salesman, etc. all day long and had to interact with them on some level. I learned fairly quickly who to watch out for and who you could "trust", but I still kept myself very guarded. I was more friendly towards these coworkers than at my previous job because I worked there for over 3 years and was around them a lot longer throughout the day.
In both places I always had 1 or 2 "work buddies" who I was friendly with, but we had little to talk about other than work related topics, and while I still keep in touch with a couple of the guys from the dealership on occasion, we've never hung out or even seen each other outside of work (execpt bumping into each other by accident in the store, mall, etc.) Once I'd left the job I realized that the only thing we really had in common was that we worked together, we lived very different lives.
It's better to keep it strictly professional, as too much backstabbing and politics occur on most jobs.
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