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Old 08-16-2017, 10:23 AM
 
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We often share experiences with each other. There is a guy that I started working with earlier this year. He always looks for inconsistencies in what I say. I'm sure he does it with other people as well. The thing is this. There never is enough time for us to share EVERYTHING about our experiences. So, if you think hard enough, you can always find inconsistencies in everything even if there are no inconsistencies if you know everything about them.

For example, earlier today, I told him last year we ran into situation X and we had to deal with it with Y. He said wait a minute wait a minute I just spotted an inconsistency. You were working for organization Z which doesn't allow Y. I had to tell him that I worked on 2 projects last year, not just 1. In fact, it is often the case that an engineer works on more than 1 project in the same year. Very normal.

That was just one example. Even something as simple as "my beagle blah blah blah", he'd jump in and say "but I thought you had a lap". Well, can't a person have more than one dog?

It does get irritating at times, because after all the laughs and giggles, it does sound like he's accusing you of lying.
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Old 08-16-2017, 10:48 AM
 
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Yes, and I gave him the silent treatment and after that he left me alone. Uncomfortable being around him at work but the alternative would have been to yell at him.

I admit I never felt comfortable talking about such things with people so I just ignore them (outside of a professional need to talk to them).
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Old 08-16-2017, 03:55 PM
 
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We often share experiences with each other. There is a guy that I started working with earlier this year. He always looks for inconsistencies in what I say. I'm sure he does it with other people as well. The thing is this. There never is enough time for us to share EVERYTHING about our experiences. So, if you think hard enough, you can always find inconsistencies in everything even if there are no inconsistencies if you know everything about them.

For example, earlier today, I told him last year we ran into situation X and we had to deal with it with Y. He said wait a minute wait a minute I just spotted an inconsistency. You were working for organization Z which doesn't allow Y. I had to tell him that I worked on 2 projects last year, not just 1. In fact, it is often the case that an engineer works on more than 1 project in the same year. Very normal.

That was just one example. Even something as simple as "my beagle blah blah blah", he'd jump in and say "but I thought you had a lap". Well, can't a person have more than one dog?

It does get irritating at times, because after all the laughs and giggles, it does sound like he's accusing you of lying.
He probably spends a lot of time posting on C-D....this is a very common tact around these parts.
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Old 08-16-2017, 04:29 PM
 
Location: In the Redwoods
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Probably has some trust issues, which have nothing to do with you or your colleagues... likely he comes from a family (and/or social circle) of liars, and therefore thinks EVERYONE is lying at times. It's annoying, but all you can do is respond to each "accusation" calmly or avoid conversation when possible.
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Old 08-16-2017, 04:33 PM
 
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With all your threads on how your work place has issues, maybe the issues are you?
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Old 08-16-2017, 04:44 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Oh sure. In 31 years of work I've met many. One gal in my office is always quick to point out any small typo in email I send, etc.

Like I give two S**ts. I'm retiring in 17 weeks.
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Old 08-16-2017, 04:49 PM
 
Location: In the Redwoods
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With all your threads on how your work place has issues, maybe the issues are you?
Haha... I don't know the OP, so can't say if you have a point! But it reminds me of something I heard once (at a meditation-type class): "If you encounter one or two jerks on the road, it's just typical Bay Area driving; but if EVERYONE seems like a jerk, you might need to look inward instead." Or something like that.
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Old 08-16-2017, 04:53 PM
 
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Haha... I don't know the OP, so can't say if you have a point! But it reminds me of something I heard once (at a meditation-type class): "If you encounter one or two jerks on the road, it's just typical Bay Area driving; but if EVERYONE seems like a jerk, you might need to look inward instead." Or something like that.
Actually, lately I almost never complain about work. I actually love my job and career.

MLS is I'm guessing someone that hates his job. It's his way of trying to jab me.

Go ahead and do a search of my posting history in this section if you don't believe me.
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Old 08-16-2017, 04:59 PM
 
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With all your threads on how your work place has issues, maybe the issues are you?
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MLS is I'm guessing someone that hates his job. It's his way of trying to jab me.

Actuallly, I think that MLS works with you and you are referring to him in the first post.
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Old 08-16-2017, 05:26 PM
 
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Actuallly, I think that MLS works with you and you are referring to him in the first post.
Haha, that's pretty funny.
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