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Old 02-21-2018, 01:19 PM
 
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To me, I think I'd pass on this offer unless you are desperate and have nothing else on your plate right now. There are red flags all over the place for this job. I always kind of compare it to dating. If a dating prospect responded back to you in the manner that your future boss did, would you go out with him on a date? I woudn't.
Good point and analogy
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Old 02-21-2018, 01:23 PM
 
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But what really bothers me is the email response from your potential manager. It sounds unnecessarily rude and hostile. In your shoes, unless I were desperate for employment, I'd pass on this offer. Good luck!
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To me, I think I'd pass on this offer unless you are desperate and have nothing else on your plate right now. There are red flags all over the place for this job. I always kind of compare it to dating. If a dating prospect responded back to you in the manner that your future boss did, would you go out with him on a date? I woudn't.
I agree. I had a fairly recent experience with an employer where a particular manager asked a couple of questions that I thought were odd at the time, but fairly benign in the grand scheme of things. Sure enough, it was this same person that caused MASSIVE headaches with my employment. Listen to your gut. This cannot be overstated. I'm in agreement with all the people that said if you take this job, keep searching for something better so you can leave at the earliest opportunity.

I also really liked the way you handled the less-than-helpful responses here. Things will eventually work out for you.
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Old 02-21-2018, 01:33 PM
 
Location: In a city within a state where politicians come to get their PHDs in Corruption
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It’s a small software company. I applied for an administrative assistant role. I have 8 years experience doing that for work. Only 10 people in the office.

I just did some looking around at the owner on google. His white pages popped up and White pages has a “related to” field. In that field a woman’s name popped up. Same name as the woman that would be my manager. So I believe my future manager is his wife. Seems she still goes by her maiden name. She spoke of him as he was her boss not her husband in the interview.
Small businesses come with some pros and cons compared to big companies. I should know, I own two of them. Small companies often take on personalities of their ownership, and you should be comfortable with that. You should also be prepared to know more, good or bad about the people than you would otherwise.

Although, husband and wife owned companies are in a league of their own, and I've never seen one where there wasn't quite a bit of hostility, implicit, or explicit between the two.
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Old 02-21-2018, 01:40 PM
 
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Although, husband and wife owned companies are in a league of their own, and I've never seen one where there wasn't quite a bit of hostility, implicit, or explicit between the two.
I had a friend who worked for a husband and wife team. The stories she would tell. It was super dysfunctional.
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Old 02-21-2018, 03:21 PM
 
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I had a friend who worked for a husband and wife team. The stories she would tell. It was super dysfunctional.
I recently got done working for a husband and wife team for about 7 months.
It was absolutely, hands down, the WORST job I ever had in my entire life.

The only reason why I stayed as long as I did is because we started the house buying process and I couldn't change my employment in the middle of it all.

Literally the day I got my new house keys, I drove to the job (I was a manager so I had keys), left my letter of resignation and took all my stuff out of the office.

It was the first job that ever made me so ill from the stress, I was rushed to the ER three times. As soon as I quit that place, I never had those "severe spasm" issues again. Ugh.

They had the highest rate of employee turnover I've ever seen. The average employee was there for about 2-3 weeks. Granted, obviously some of the employees just weren't good, but a lot of had to do with the company. Particularly the wife/CEO...
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Old 02-21-2018, 05:35 PM
 
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Hello,

I’ve been out of work for about two months because the company I was working for closed down. I went interview for a job a few weeks ago and I was initially pretty excited about the role. When I did receive an offer many of the details were different from what we discussed in the interview. When I went to the interview the initial idea was this role was going to be part time and a 10-5ish schedule and said there was some flexibility. When they made the offer they changed it to a 30 day trial period and if they feel I’m a good fit they’ll offer me a permanent role after the trial. They never mentioned it being a 30 day trial in the interview. They also changed the hours to 9-6 with not much flexibility. I told them I prefer to leave at 5:30 but they said no. I like the other hours better but at the same time I need a job. So I accepted it. Now I’m having second thoughts.

I had some questions for my new manager that I sent her via email. She only answered a few of my questions and either ignored or missed the rest. So I sent a second email with the questions that she didn’t answer. She then wrote me back a snappy email saying “Please consolidate your questions in one email from now on” .. seriously? That really put me off.

Looking for advice

Thanks
Sounds like the old bait and switch. You have a right to be miffed. I also think you are nicer then I am, because I would definitely have had a hard time not replying to that snarky email and letting her know that I had listed all the questions in the first email.

Good luck to you.
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Old 02-21-2018, 05:45 PM
 
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Sounds like the old bait and switch. You have a right to be miffed. I also think you are nicer then I am, because I would definitely have had a hard time not replying to that snarky email and letting her know that I had listed all the questions in the first email.

Good luck to you.
Thanks and I actually did say that to her 😁
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Old 02-21-2018, 06:13 PM
 
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So, RoseFlowers, what have you decided to do? Take the job and keep looking or not take it all? Personally, I absolutely hate having to take any old thing and keep looking because it is so difficult to go on interviews when you start a new job.
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Old 02-22-2018, 12:43 AM
 
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Hang in there and play the situation as you need it. Rotten employers are out there. Just don't stick to one for too long. Good luck!
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Old 02-22-2018, 04:50 AM
 
Location: SW Florida
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[quote=oceangaia;51090199]Whining because they want you to leave at 6:00 and you prefer to leave at 5:30 is what I consider "neediness". What earth shattering difference is a half hour going to make? quote]


That 30 minutes can make a big difference if you commute. If I leave work at 4 p.m. I can breeze home with no problem at the bridge. However if I leave anywhere between 4:30-6:00 p.m. I will sitting in serious traffic.


Why are you attacking this poster? Seems to me her questions of this new company were legitimate. She was told one thing at the interview and then they turned things around when they offered her the job. And it didn't sound like she was "whining" as you put it, she was just stating the facts as she sees it.
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