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Old 02-21-2018, 08:50 PM
 
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I want the job, but I kind of got the hots for the interviewer. I won't elaborate much, but I did ask her a couple questions about herself (Job related, but somewhat personal). I didn't mean to make it known I liked her, but just wondering. It may have slipped out in a very indirect way. The thank you note should come from the job seeker not the interviewer. Oh well, I could be wrong.
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Old 02-21-2018, 09:02 PM
 
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I want the job, but I kind of got the hots for the interviewer. I won't elaborate much, but I did ask her a couple questions about herself (Job related, but somewhat personal). I didn't mean to make it known I liked her, but just wondering. It may have slipped out in a very indirect way. The thank you note should come from the job seeker not the interviewer. Oh well, I could be wrong.
I wouldn't read into it. Could there have been a connection? Maybe - but I would just stick to professional side of things for now.

This may be a company that knows how to attract good talent. I've know some that not only send a response to the interviewee, but they do it as a video message. Again, the point here is that they want to make you feel welcomed so you will keep them on the top of your list. They understand that this process is a two way street.
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Old 02-21-2018, 09:12 PM
 
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I wouldn't read into it. Could there have been a connection? Maybe - but I would just stick to professional side of things for now.

This may be a company that knows how to attract good talent. I've know some that not only send a response to the interviewee, but they do it as a video message. Again, the point here is that they want to make you feel welcomed so you will keep them on the top of your list. They understand that this process is a two way street.
Thanks for the reply. I agree with you. I will definitely be professional. I wouldn't flirt with her for sure, but I'd dabble in personal talk. I was sincerely interested in her, may have been professionally and maybe not. She was just nice, professional and smart and what she said interested me professionally. It was part that I wanted to know about the company and part I was interested in her.
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Old 02-25-2018, 11:58 PM
 
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I sent a thanks for letting me interview email and said please keep me updated. My reply was 2 days later and so was hers to say she will keep me updated. I'm thinking it may not be good for me to be feeling this way.
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Old 02-27-2018, 06:25 AM
 
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The interviewer sending a thank you letter thanking you for expressing interest in and interviewing with the company should be acceptable when it is kept to being business only. If it becomes personal, that becomes a red flag.
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Old 02-27-2018, 06:28 AM
 
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I'm thinking it may not be good for me to be feeling this way.
No, it probably isn't. Natural, sure! But many workplaces frown on relationships like this. That doesn't mean you can't do it... but it complicates things. Then again, relationships are complicated but if done outside of a work setting, it is one less complication.

The one piece of unsolicited advice... don't take the job because you want to start a relationship with the interviewer. Maybe she has a great personality but it might be awfully uncomfortable for everyone involved if you act on it. Maybe she was being nice because just like how you were trying to put your best foot forward, she is representing her company and she's putting her best foot forward.

I wouldn't read into the thank you note. When my company has me as part of the interview process, I send thank you notes as well. Regardless of what direction the notes traditionally come from, I've found that since my company has many different departments and many job openings, having a good rapport with an interviewee that might not even pan out with one department might work out with another department in the future. And then there's already a positive relationship at that point.
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Old 02-27-2018, 12:00 PM
 
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Look on the bright side: if you don't get the job, you can ask her out.
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