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I befriended the guy who sits next to me...we are both the same age (29) and the only people below manager level who have been with the company for over a year.
It started as grabbing coffee in the lunch room but now he is straight up making me look bad at work. I can tell several managers do not like him because he has an attitude and is bitchier than any of the women I have worked with. Yet he has been on the team for 4 years and isnt going anywhere.
He acts possesive over me but I dont think there is a romantic feeling involved as he is married and his only social outlet is his wife.
He always badgers me to leave the office when he wants to but i think only so he is not the first to leave. He will go as far as interupting my concentration repeatedly and even asking over and over again telling me to leave when I am obviously busy.
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I would never think to badger someone when they are busy. He will also complain about work related things to me in front of my boss or other higher ups on purpose because he thinks they should hear.
That is not my personality and I find it rude. I dont want to be aligned with him at all anymore but he wont leave me alone and when I have tried to be more distant he starts making jokes that I am not working or slacking off. His english is also so bad so he can easily play it off.
How can I get this imbecile to leave me the hell alone without him slandering me?
Be firm and tell him your busy. Since when do you have to leave together? He may be setting you up. Watch out. Remember, you have NO friends at work. Only acquaintances.
Be firm and tell him your busy. Since when do you have to leave together? He may be setting you up. Watch out. Remember, you have NO friends at work. Only acquaintances.
Tonight he cane to my desk and just kept asking me over and over again like a petulant child. I almost snapped at him. He wouldnt walk away from my cube after I told him several times I am busy and I even said "you dont have to wait for me" "please do not wait for me". It is embaressing that my team sees me like begging this guy to go away.
You may have to get a higher up involved. Just have them put the word on him to leave you alone. They can say they noticed him bothering you so it doesn’t look like you said anything.
You may have to get a higher up involved. Just have them put the word on him to leave you alone. They can say they noticed him bothering you so it doesn’t look like you said anything.
This. It's borderline harassment. I would counsel with your boss and ask them to either move you, or allow you the liberty of putting Mr. Obnoxious in his place. If they let you, do not be gentle. Be ruthless. It's the only way this guy will get the hint. Let him know he has poked the tiger too much, and he's about to get eaten.
Tonight he cane to my desk and just kept asking me over and over again like a petulant child. I almost snapped at him. He wouldnt walk away from my cube after I told him several times I am busy and I even said "you dont have to wait for me" "please do not wait for me". It is embaressing that my team sees me like begging this guy to go away.
Stand your ground. If he keeps badgering you, tell him "I don't appreciate your badgering. I am not interested." Keep repeating that to him. That's all you need to say.
If he continues, talk to your supervisor because your co-worker is creating a hostile work environment.
I have had to do the same with a colleague. It's come to light that he's made inappropriate remarks to several of my other colleagues. While we are more acquaintances than friends (we work on the same team), we would occasionally sit together at lunch or grab a bite to eat before an evening meeting. As I don't want my professional reputation damaged, I have quit what may have been perceived by others as "socializing" with him. I strictly only interact with him in a professional setting now. It's taken several "No, thank yous" but I think the message has been received.
Be firm and tell him your busy. Since when do you have to leave together? He may be setting you up. Watch out. Remember, you have NO friends at work. Only acquaintances.
This and you may want to try to get moved away from him. Talk to your boss and say that working with him is a strain and explain the leaving thing. If you can get moved he will likely turn his attention elsewhere.
Easiest solution would be to tell him to his face that you will not tolerate his behavior. Be very clear. I don't know if you have that in you. If not, start with reading a book or two about assertiveness.
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