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A while back a friendly co-worker went sick. I covered their work for the day. They came back and got mad about how it was done. No one figured why, all the work was done normal. Their behavior went childish - refusing to reply to me, not co-operating, mimicking my talk, making jokes about me to my face, ranting when I approached to discuss it, really ridiculous behavior. I couldn't figure out what I'd done wrong.
After weeks of this, on Monday, they decided that they wanted to go for another sassy rant at me while smiling to my face in the middle of my tasks. I lost my temper and yelled at them (not shouting but raised voice) in a controlled way to sit down, shut up, and keep it shut. They protested, so I spent several more seconds commanding the initial instruction, in very specific, and no uncertain terms. They were visibly shaken and sat down. They had obviously thought I was a pushover. Within an hour they handed in their notice without a job to go to.
Am I supposed to feel about this? My head is saying this a loss because surely reason would have won eventually. Things could have been dealt with. But my heart is saying that would never have happened - justice was served. Obviously it's not a lesson to start yelling every time I don't get my way. Then again it's clear that many people aren't available to reason no matter however you present it to them.
So what do you think? Which side do you take? And do other people have stories of getting rid of crappy co-workers?
So you're saying a co-worker up and suddenly quit because -- one time -- you raised your voice and told him/her to sit down and shut up -- and basically told the person what for?
IMHO BOTH of you behaved like children. You both made the whole issue about yourselves. Justice? What justice? A coworker didn't show you the appreciation you expected. They should have. Get over it. You just lowered yourself to their level. Workplaces are for professional behavior; where you rise above your baser inclinations to pout, sulk, yell, insult, and intimidate others. Be glad they didn't file a formal complaint against you upon leaving. Be careful what you wish for...you might get it. Who knows; your "reward" might be to take on all their work as well as your own from now on.
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A while back a friendly co-worker went sick. I covered their work for the day. They came back and got mad about how it was done. No one figured why, all the work was done normal. Their behavior went childish - refusing to reply to me, not co-operating, mimicking my talk, making jokes about me to my face, ranting when I approached to discuss it, really ridiculous behavior. I couldn't figure out what I'd done wrong.
After weeks of this, on Monday, they decided that they wanted to go for another sassy rant at me while smiling to my face in the middle of my tasks. I lost my temper and yelled at them (not shouting but raised voice) in a controlled way to sit down, shut up, and keep it shut. They protested, so I spent several more seconds commanding the initial instruction, in very specific, and no uncertain terms. They were visibly shaken and sat down. They had obviously thought I was a pushover. Within an hour they handed in their notice without a job to go to.""
You are very fortunate that you didn't get fired. You are paid to be a professional, at whatever you do, not to play High school immaturities out in the workplace. To tell a co-worker to Shut up, Keep it shut, no matter what connotation creates a Hostile environment. Had they chose to go to HR and file a complaint, you would be the one facing reprimand, write up, anger management classes, and possible termination.
So you're saying a co-worker up and suddenly quit because -- one time -- you raised your voice and told him/her to sit down and shut up -- and basically told the person what for?
Yes. I tried reasoning with them for weeks.
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Originally Posted by Parnassia
IMHO BOTH of you behaved like children. You both made the whole issue about yourselves.
This all initiated just because I ticked a few different boxes on our software from habit when they went sick. It had no need to lead to a loss of a job. Agreed, workplaces are places to behave and treat with care, because there are consequences when you do not. I turned out to be the consequence.
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Originally Posted by sinsativ
Had they chose to go to HR and file a complaint, you would be the one facing reprimand, write up, anger management classes, and possible termination.
Had this been a company where general corporate principles mattered I would not be in this situation in the first place. This isn't a "nice" company that works out for sensitive people much or treats complaints seriously. Also our HR department has collapsed and is now in the painful process of re-building itself through separate departments.
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Originally Posted by Tencent
However, it won't be long until the next idiot shows up.
At least this time, I have the experience to deal with it.
You behaved horribly and I am shocked him weren’t fired for that rant. You could have very professionally be just as direct and to the point.
For the third time. I tried several times. The behavior on both parties was conducted in front of management. No action was taken. This isn't a nice company. There is no cotton wool to wrap you up in. Maybe this is the wrong community.
For the third time. I tried several times. The behavior on both parties was conducted in front of management. No action was taken. This isn't a nice company. There is no cotton wool to wrap you up in. Maybe this is the wrong community.
Some people aren't going to risk a six figure job over a sassy coworker.
OP. It's over. You did nothing wrong except show up a passive aggressive bully. No loss. Move on.
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