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Looking back on my various jobs, all of which took place in an office environment, most of the people were incredibly fake and two-faced. It never ceased to amaze me how many people would trash supervisors and other coworkers, and then when the person being trashed entered the room, it was all smiles and "how has your day been going?"
I always figured if they were doing that to other people, they were doing it to me as well. That's why I kept to myself and never bothered to socialize or try to get to know my coworkers. What's the point if they are just being fake?
Maybe it's just me, but I find when I work with women, I get experiences like the OP is describing. Men (in general) tend to be more easy-going. Women seem to thrive on drama and gossip.
Maybe it's just me, but I find when I work with women, I get experiences like the OP is describing. Men (in general) tend to be more easy-going. Women seem to thrive on drama and gossip.
I have worked with men who gossip too. They are annoying as hell.
Maybe it's just me, but I find when I work with women, I get experiences like the OP is describing. Men (in general) tend to be more easy-going. Women seem to thrive on drama and gossip.
I don’t agree.
I don’t typically work closely with women, but whenever I have dealt with women in the workplace, overall my experience has been better than dealing with men.
In my industry in the jobs I have held, there are often guys in roles that don’t necessarily belong there. For example, the manager that doesnt have a college degree but worked his way thru the system and made friends along the way that helped push him up. Not that there is anything wrong with that type of manager, but in my experience those people tend to use cunning and politics to maneuver their way into the posistion, as opposed to actually being the right person for the job.
I have had some jobs where some guys were either horrible managers, or they were very difficult people to deal with and made the job so much more difficult than it needed to be.
One job I had, I noticed one guy in my office very rarely chatted with anyone. It was obvious. He came in, said good morning, good night, and almost nothing in-between. Once I got to know the other chatty guy in the office, the charmer, I realized why the quiet guy never spoke and never got involved with being buddies.
I have never had a positive professional relationship with the charmer. They always wind up being the most difficult person in the end.
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Pretty sure he is talking the workplace only.
If you are doing it correctly, you are cordial enough with your coworkers to not harm the working relationship but not close enough to be in reach of their claws when SHTF and they start to swipe anyone in reach of their claws. Don’t befriend them on social media, don’t give too much information about your personal life, overall don’t give them any ammo they can use against you later.
Looking back on my various jobs, all of which took place in an office environment, most of the people were incredibly fake and two-faced. It never ceased to amaze me how many people would trash supervisors and other coworkers, and then when the person being trashed entered the room, it was all smiles and "how has your day been going?"
I always figured if they were doing that to other people, they were doing it to me as well. That's why I kept to myself and never bothered to socialize or try to get to know my coworkers. What's the point if they are just being fake?
This is human nature. And it's not unique to work. Albeit you may see it more because you spend more time at work and you don't often get to pick and choose who you work with.
But certainly there are also this type of behavior outside of work. We all have people that we don't exactly like in our social circles but still remain cordial. In may cases, it's simply not worth it to pick a fight.
If you are doing it correctly, you are cordial enough with your coworkers to not harm the working relationship but not close enough to be in reach of their claws when SHTF and they start to swipe anyone in reach of their claws. Don’t befriend them on social media, don’t give too much information about your personal life, overall don’t give them any ammo they can use against you later.
I have no idea why people think it's a good idea to befriend current coworkers on social media. I don't care if your profile is limited. That's just asking for trouble.
So don't socialize at all because some people are scummy people?
You'll go through life alone if that's the attitude.
The OP said s/he chose not to socialize with the coworkers, not in life in general. Co-workers aren't a surrogate family or friends' circle, as portrayed on the Mary Tyler Moore show. They're just people you work with. If you happen to hit it off with someone, fine, become friends. But most co-workers aren't compatible with each other, on that level. They're just people who were thrown together due to employment interests.
Maybe it's just me, but I find when I work with women, I get experiences like the OP is describing. Men (in general) tend to be more easy-going. Women seem to thrive on drama and gossip.
NO-O-o, men can be just as vicious as anyone; it's about personality types, not gender. The only back-stabbing type I've ever encountered in the workplace was a guy; a very manipulative grad student, not very mature. He ended up being forced to resign, and also got dropped from his grad program, and switched to a different grad program. His attempts to manipulate people did no good, and backfired on him, to some extent.
everyone does it, you just dont do it WITH the boss. Something simple as, "hey that guys music sucks" is considered **** talking in today's sensitive emasculated climate.
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