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Old 04-05-2019, 04:23 PM
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You are on SSI right? That gives you time to make a plan. One suggestion would to do volunteer work for a year or 2 to get some experience. Most charities need tech people. I've volunteered before. As far as I know there is no background check or interview. They just have an orientation and see if you would match for anything they need. This would be great for you, because it's 1. experience 2. makes you look like a good guy 3. you can make friends and learn to work with people 4. if you do start a business, you can say that you volunteered on your website 5. for a job, you can put it on your resume 6. if you don't do anything horrible, you get them as a reference.

If I were you, I'd volunteer for a year or 2 at 2 or 3 different organizations.

Also, SSI will allow you to attempt to work and still collect SSI for a period of time. But make sure you follow their rules.

Old 04-05-2019, 05:49 PM
Location: SNA=>PDX 2013
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I saw this listed a couple of times, but want to reinforce it.

Large companies (think global or more than a few thousand employees), usually have background check vendors who will automatically rule out people with specific hits, so you might want to stay away from those.

Whereas companies like my own, might be more likely to give you the benefit of the doubt, depending on your position, and hey, we're healthcare. We like to have the person write up something telling us, in their own words, what happened. We take that, their interview, their role, the age of the person at the time of the incident, the amount of time since it happened, etc, and then make a decision. It's not something we always do, but if you were a good fit and had all the skills we needed, we might be willing to give it a go. Others, we might not. For us, right now the issue would be that it's only about 2.5 years old. I feel as though you have options, just not a lot. The more time that passes, the more likely people will overlook this (granted, again, not large corps so stay away from those).

Also, you might want to know your states rights in regards to how far back they can go; there are states that have no limitations, in case you can't get it removed after the 10 years.
Old 04-05-2019, 06:32 PM
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Originally Posted by jetgraphics View Post
If I may make a suggestion - forget about being an employee and consider being your own company / employer.
As to what service / business to enter, that is the question. See a need, fill a need. Companies don't need credentials, just happy customers.
If you hire employees, they'll be the ones going through the background checks.
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Any "Business for Dummies" book is a good starting point.

Business in a nutshell is accounting and a business plan. Luckily, computer software can do the finicky accounting for you. But the business plan is like a computer program, listing all the steps and items you need to run your business. That's what you show to prospective investors when you need capital.

From the customer's frame of reference, the business is a problem solver for something they cannot do for themselves.
Repair electronics - install a garage door - replace flooring - install an over-the-air antenna 30 ft up - run a LAN network - Pest control - provide lodgings and food service - write a web page - install and maintain a server - custom tailoring - and so on.

Also, if you can deal with bartering, you may find it a valuable way to trade goods and services with other businesses.
All very good points in general, but definitely not applicable to the OP.

No offense intended, but the OP is not in a good place now mentally (just read the link that the OP himself posted on this thread, that details what his legal problem was and his various ongoing mental issues). He is in no condition to be starting his own business, and quite frankly, he doesn't have any of that motivation and hunger needed to start his own gig. He has a LOT of issues he needs to work on first, aside from the black mark on his background check.

As someone else pointed out, this stalking incident happened only a few years ago, not many decades ago.

He's already had over a dozen jobs in a short period of time. As the OP appears to be seeking some form of 'advice,' the best advice is to first fix himself mentally and emotionally (he can also keep applying to various jobs and industries where they may give him a chance, up to him whether he wants to accept this 'advice').
Old 04-05-2019, 09:17 PM
Location: Prepperland
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Originally Posted by Suburban_Guy View Post
All very good points in general, but definitely not applicable to the OP.

No offense intended, but the OP is not in a good place now mentally.
I've worked for quite a few bosses who were one fry short of a happy meal. One guy was litigation happy, and spent most of his time suing competitors instead of running his business. Another guy was operating on a 'defense contract' out of his basement, while making grandiose claims to get more funding. Another dude tended to blame everyone else for his problems, and eventually bankrupted himself. Everyone has their own horror stories, I bet.

Sometimes you just have to be 'crazy' to live at risk of utter collapse and running your own business anyway. Reviewing the histories of 'successful' companies often feature a string of failures that didn't stop the entrepreneur. . . especially before there were 'socialist safety nets.'

My mother knew a guy who kept losing jobs because he would get uncontrollable urges to nap. So he set up a business in his house, where he could take naps whenever he needed. Freed of the tyranny of a boss and schedule, he wound up working far more hours each day... happily.

FWIW - being in a business, one may have to be jack of all trades, doing marketing, sales, production, accounting, inventory control, etc., etc.

Or not - if you're set up as a one man software shop, providing web support for multiple clients.

An 'odd' inspiration - while watching a PBS show "Keeping the Kibbutz" several people developed careers doing stuff they had no intention of doing before they joined up - having educational credentials in unrelated fields. One woman ran a dairy. Another man was a chef in a restaurant. Another woman ran a small grocery. Each had wound up doing the job because there was a need for someone to fill, and if not them, who? In time, as they acquired skills, they found they enjoyed it.

There are niche careers and businesses everywhere.

One wise man said: do not seek a career in something you love, because once you're forced to do it for money, you may grow to hate the thing you love. Better to seek a career in something you like, regardless of the money. And keep the thing you love as a hobby.
Old 04-05-2019, 09:46 PM
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Bottom line, most of these people including myself would hire you on your own, not as an employee. I think it comes down to not wanting to take the risk of you being an employee of a business where you may make a bad impression on the customers. You will have to shift the risk on yourself. I'd hire you as a contractor.

By the way, I have been stalked. One time was by my lifetime best friend. I didn't know about it at the time. But now, I don't even care. We are like family. But it's creepy.

Another time by a girl I dated 3 weeks. That scared me. She showed up at my house. I only knew because she posted on social media. I was scared then, but now I don't think it was a big deal. But you were 20 and she was 16, so there is that. Never try to talk to anyone who hasnt shown you they want to talk back.

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Old 04-06-2019, 06:15 AM
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Seeing more and more posts from those with ASD. You need to seek assistance from organizations that support employment for those on the spectrum. They may even be able to give you legal assistance to petition that local government to get your record cleared.
Old 04-06-2019, 04:45 PM
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Mehh... Im willing to bet 95 percent of corporate execs have done FAR worse and ruined more lives than any "Stalker/Harasser"
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